Sadinmontana, please join "Moms of Estranged Adults" on this site. It is a very active group with lots of help and support for those of us who are estranged from our adult children.

just my 2cents worth here. Girls/Ladies. You get one Mother and sometimes our Mothers arent always honest w/us about their pasts i.e. pains, what theyve gone thru, etc etc.most, if not all Moms want the best for their Children/Daughters and do not want them to make the same mistakes. My Mother for instance didnt want me to marry young or have kids at a young age, well, I was a know it all and (in love)

I have a daughter that refuses to communicate, it's more convenient to keep me in the dark about what she's doing. I support her and her baby, and have given them a safe environment, bought a car for her to use and babysat for free. She curses at me, gets mad at me for any advice I offer, refuses to be helpful... I work and have physical disabilities... she doesn't care. Her older sister has tried to encourage her to communicatean be a better person, nothing works. I so want to kick her out again, but worry about the baby. I just want her to be a good mam and figure out what she's going to do with her life (soon) as I did it on my own and raised my kids. she has a chip on her shoulder and it's affecting the baby's personality, she hits and is only 15 months old.
I had a good relationship with my Mom AFTER I moved out of the abusive household I grew up in. I never showed disrespect though, Mom was just too busy worrying about what my Dad was doing. I guess I just rambled a whole bunch....
I suggest you just be the best daughter you can be for your Mom, and yourself, and keep lines of communication open. Stay positive and maybe your Mom will have a lightbulb moment and be able to open up with you. Best of luck!

My mother left me when I was young, my dad raised me. My mom had visitations but never showed and I didn't grow up with her around. When I was old enough, 18-19 I met her and her new husband and I found out I had a half sister who was 4 yrs younger than me. Our relationship was good, I didn't care what happened prior years as that wasn't important anymore. My mom left me again and here I am 36, it's like if she doesn't get what she wants or things aren't her way she leaves. How can someone leave a child???? I don't let it get to me but it does sometime and I wonder what I did wrong. Anyways, I've called her recently and tried to reconnect. This is the 3rd time I've called her so I think next time I will wait for her call and if nothing then there is nothing I can do. If she doesn't want to be my mom and love her grandson also then I can't beg for her to be in my life. Some people just have issues and there is nothing we can do about it.

My daughter is sixteen and has reported to cps that she is "emotionally abused". By emotional abuse she is claiming that I scream at her, and call her names. Because of this they removed her from my home and cps won't allow us to get her back home because she is refusing to come back home. I have never called my daughter names, or abused her in any way. I do not "scream" at her. I do have a firmer voice when I have to remind her to do her chore for the 5th time. Since when does the state have the right to remove my daughter under allegations that are lies, with no proof what-so-ever? They have never even questioned my 18 year old daughter who will support the fact that I do not treat her in an abusive manner.
Is anyone else having issues like this?
My daughter is not backing down with her accusations, and I am so hurt, and I just do not understand.

I am so sorry to everyone. These are all such sad situations.

I always had a wonderful relationship with my mother. She was 44 when she had me and I was her baby. When I was 8, she suffered an anyuerism (spelling?) and became paralyzed on her right side. It took a lot of strength to come back from that and she did as much as she was able and we were close until she died 8 years ago.

My father, however, is different. We don't speak anymore. I can feel everyone's pain because these people, these parents, are people we are attached to for life, even when we detach. And no matter what, it will always hurt. Its not something you can get over and be fine with, you'll always feel that tinge and that emptiness of a missing parent. They aren't replaceable like a boyfriend or a friend. Well, thats how I feel anyway.

mother and daughter relationship is suppose to be precious, but that is the biggest lie ever. only a few are precious while the rest are horrible. if you have any female friends who never had a real mom or a mom that did a lot of destructive things in her life, i wouldnt call that a special relationship.

my mom is a cunt, a narcissitic lil bitch who only thinks about herself only. me and my siblings, mostly my 2 sisters and i NEVER had a real relationship with her - only when we want money thats it. ohh but our brother is the fav!

as i was growing up, i came to realize that most of these mothers like our emotional less mothers shouldnt have been parents. friends i had most of them had great mothers and some i had had parents like mine. You see on tv about how wonderful mother and daughters have which is a lot of bs to me.

Indigowinds3 kids who say their parents abused them do not need to give proof. cps will take the case to court and the judge will give cps the right to take the child away from their parents. The reason why this is because no abuser admitts to abusing their kids. The child is always believe over the parent. Sadly some kids lie about being abused but they are still believed.

My mother was close to me until about 3 months after my father (her husband of 35 years) suddenly died. She began sleeping with another guy she met walking around the local river. My sisters (I have 3) were very jealous that my father asked me to be the executor of their will...(he asked me this a few years prior to his passing). Whether I am or not (which now I am certain I am not)...does not matter to me...just the fact that my parents felt that way about me is all that matters to me.

To make a long story short, personal tragedies in my life were cause for my sisters and their husbands to turn my mother against me and my children.

After years of my reaching out, there was a reconciliation with one of my sisters and (reluctantly) my mother. However, through Facebook my mother has constantly ignored my sons...and just last week when my estranged sister's husband accosted me on Facebook, instead of my mother asking him to not berate me and my sons, she blocked me and my sons from her Facebook....condoning the lewd and insulting behavior of my estranged sister's husband.

Funny thing is...the sister she is most close with now, is the one that she did not get along with when my father was alive!

Talk about dysfunctional? I am again kicked to the curb again but handling it better as I am much older and certainly much wiser. And my boys as well.

My mother has taught me what NOT to be.

I like this topic. I would like to talk about my relationship with my mothers (yes plural), but it would take more than a paragraph to express my intense feelings and because there are so many stories I'm afraid my story wouldn't be appreciated. I don't even have the energy to try to wrap it up into a little summary, but man this topic really hits home for me.