Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I love my family, but sometimes my mother is very over-protective. She needs to see that I am a 36 year old grown woman! Also, family is important, but how much do I really need to see them? I opted out of seeing my own family for Thanksgiving this year. I went to the in-laws instead. I had a great time and didn't feel guilty.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
What I did to break away and be my own person was move to a different state. Although I continued to call my mother on a daily basis. When I left NYC, I felt like I could finally live my life and do what I wanted and make my own choices. Mom begged me to come back but I didn't want to.
I am sure that there is a such thing as being smothered by a mother and I can just bet it's nerve wrecking. But check me out - I'm on the opposite end. My mom walks around telling everyone how much she enjoyed being a mother to me and my five siblings so much. She tells that to everyone even to us! But get this- what she calls being such a good mom I could have done without about half of that and traded it in for some Cosby Show lovin'. She always says,"I was a good mom, honey! My kids were always clean, hair always combed, and their bellies were full everyday!" Which was true. But I hated that as a child! Instead of her giving me conversation and a little playtime and advice sometimes, I was too busy getting my hair pulled and snagged (hurt like hell) and straightened (more like burned)with a hot comb, eating dull dry beans and cornbread,and getting bathed two or three times a day and not being allowed to play in the dirt again for the rest of the day.
I remember all that and it makes me sad. She was a good caretaker but not a good mom to me. And now I stress so hard about giving my kids the necessary attention, I have problems with stress, depression and everything else. I'm on medication cause I'm always overdoing the mom thing, and I can't seem to stop on my own. It's a learning process. I'm 34 with three boys.
I hope your moms eventually even the love out some for you guys and I pray they never stop loving you enough that you have doubts.
Good luck. Reka