I am in a similar situation, I stay because I truly love him, but I am comfortable and afraid of the real world and afraid to be alone. I am scared that I wont beable to make a life for myself and my kids. I am getting to the point where it isnt getting better, i dont want to leave, but I may have to. Comfort is the number one thing that is keeping me. Normalcey I guess. good luck, just as many have told me. look inside yourself!

I'm in a similar situation as well. Unhappy for ... well, many, many reasons. I want to get out. But, I can't afford the house on my own. Even if I work full time. I could work nights & babysit during the day to make ends meet... but I'm scared. Honestly, it's like luvinmomhood said... normalcy. Terrified of change. Terrified of the financial burden. All I know, I have to figure out what's best for me.... money & miserable relationship, or no money & single mom? I don't know either. You have to find what's best for you. See what kind of support system/group you'd have from family & friends. Best of luck to you from someone that understands.

depending on what state you are in, you could apply for emergency assistance and get help with a security and first months rent at a new place. It's a difficult situation you are in (I have MS too) and it's scary. I have been in similar. I found to keep the peace I was able to talk - wihtout emotion/feelings come into play - basically saying, ok we are in a living arrangement, we need to come up with some general rules/boundaries to live with each other and both keep our sanity. And then find things that you can 'give in' with to get the ones that mean a lot to you (not yelling). and then stick to it. If he yells - a gentle reminder - i know it's difficult for you right now and you are angry, but this is one thing we have discussed, and we can solve this without yelling.. etc. One day at a time. I hope things get better for you. hugz

Coming from the other side - sometimes amazing things happen as time goes by, sometimes you have to work really hard and make them happen. That can work either way. You may have to work really hard and try things you really don't want like counseling even if it's just for yourself and your kids. Who knows, he may see how well it's working, see a different, more confident you and want to start coming too.
If not, sometimes staying can be far worse on the kids than enduring a little hardship but living a mores stressfree life. My first in-laws stayed together for many years due to religious reasons and kids. She had terrible RA and he had affairs. He ended up accidently killing her in an arguement when she attacked him.
I had no college degree when I split up with my X in my late 30's. I went through major depression and pretty tough financial times but I listened to some of what my lawyer said (should have listened to more), cried till I had no tears left and turned it all over to God and said I can't do it anymore you take over. Eventually I found a job I was able to take care of myself and my girls, not much left over but we survived, we bought a small little house with my half of the divorce and eventually God sent me a wonderful man that we now have a good working relationship with. Not perfect but better than before.
Fear of the unknown is an extremely powerful emotion cable of freezing you completely. Do homework on the social services available in your area, there are more possibilities available for help than you might think. Good Luck and know we are here if you need us!

Thank you so much guys...I know that if you work hard you can make just about any relationship work, but I work and work and give in and he just takes and takes and doesn't give back. He doesn't work on our relationship. He just does his own thing and doesn't care what I think or feel. It's impossible to make a relationship work when one person is willing and the other isn't. Besides the fact after all the shit he's put me through, I really don't want it to work out anymore. I'm just afraid of being a single mom.