Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I really dont know where to start, so here goes... I never really got along with my dad. He was always in and out and i was never good enough in his eyes..He was a drunk and he always screwd around on my mom. Things started to get better when i was 18. We would sometimes go on trips and actually spend time together. I got pregnant when i was 19, which wasnt really that big a deal, but i was younge and not inlove with the father.. Around the end of my pregnancy i actually started attempting to to try things with the father of my baby. I hated my b/f mom because she was a drunk and she never helped with anything. Whne i moved in their home we made a room for the baby and i was down stairs painting the room instead of helping she just sat upstairs and ignored me. She even stole my rings and gave them to her daughter. and basically take what ever she wanted from me.. When i was at the end of my pregnancy i found out that she had been talking with my dad alot. I didnt really understand why. Then low and be hold they started to date. I was horrified, not only was my dad who was always an asshole, kissing my ass infront of her trying to look like daddy of the year, he was dating my boyfriends mother and i was about to have a baby. My boyfriend didnt know what to do cause he was such a mommys boy and all this was so overwhelming i grabbed my stuff, packed everything when they were all gone and left. I was a nervouse wreck!! It wasnt supposed to be like this. A couple of weeks later i gave birth to my beautiful son. My mom and step dad were there for the whole thing and who should show up at the hospital but my dad and his new loser girlfrien reking of booze and the took my son befor my mom could even see him. I had to leave the room. I balled my eyes out and that was supposed to be one of the most wonderful days of my life...The nurses kicked everyone out and i was so stressed. Here i was with my first baby and already a single mom. I was reborn and dying at the same time. I havent spoken to my dad in a few years. Now they are married and the fathher of my child wont even attempt to see his son nor pay support. My dad gave him a amazing job. He makes atleast a thousand a week and cant pay a hundred a month for support. My dad has a new family now and im not a part of it, i just dont understand and still finding it hard to deal with. It feels like he ripped out my heart and threw it in front of a mac truck!!! I guess i just needed to vent and feel like my feelings are justified.. I dont think i will ever get over the amount of hurt he and his new wife has caused me. They even got married in june the month i was born.. I dont know i guess i just neede to vent.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I guess I would first suggest that your biological dad, being an alcoholic, felt comfortable with your former b/f's mother because she was also an alcoholic. Being together they could feed each other's sickness.
If you know where your son's biological father works you could let the courts that deal with child support payments know and I understand they can garnishee his wages. I wish you a lot of luck with that! Deadbeat dad's are such losers because they cause untold problems for their biological children and the children are the ones that lose out!
It sounds like your step-mother is a toxic person and not someone who your son should be seeing until he's an adult! And then ONLY if he wanted to see her!
DNA testing is available and would prove to everyone once and for all just who you're son's father was.
I strongly suggest that you see about a lawyer for yourself and your son RIGHT AWAY! Any time spent around that woman would not be beneficial, I believe, for your son! You might even turn the tables on her and get a restraining order so she and your biological father won't bother you!
You are your children's protector and their wellbeing comes FIRST!!!
Perhaps if you are able to know that you won't be bothered by your step-mother and biological father ( by having a restraining order ) your present boyfriend will feel less stressed and not need to use his particular substance of addiction.
And, congratulations on your new baby girl!
I wish you the best of luck in this stressful situation!
You should have cut him out of your life when you lost the father of your child due to him seeing his mother. All I can say is good riddance to your ex boyfriend. He obviously wasn't worth it from the start. Him being a mama's boy would have just brought you a lifetime of grief.
You should just disown your dad and his "new family" (I know that is easier said than done) and concentrate on your new baby. Maybe you and your new boyfriend should just move away and start fresh. Don't leave any forwarding addresses. Just a suggestion.