Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I have lways felt even from an early age that my mother was jelouse of me.
the thing is my father adored me to the exception of my older siblings and he never really got on with my mother as she could be very manipulative and controlling not to mention spitfull basically evil.
Well I,m am know much older and happier than Ive ever been so why am i asking questions .To begin with my mother who is 80 has turned my siblings against me and my older children. how can she do that you my ask , she is very clever in that way.
i remeber as a child she never praised me for anything I achevied at school even though my academic record was far better than my siblings, she even told me when I was 7yrs old that she hated me and loved her own mother more than me just because i didn,t want to go into town with her.
She payed for both my siblings weddings but not mine (I am the youngest)she never even came to it. She says it was because I invited my father (they were Divorced)when my youngest was born she never even sent me a card she is always praising my siblings but never me even though I have bought my own home gone to university and brought up three children single handed and watched my eldest die I hate the way I,ve been treated is it my fault?
the thing is my father adored me to the exception of my older siblings and he never really got on with my mother as she could be very manipulative and controlling not to mention spitfull basically evil.
Well I,m am know much older and happier than Ive ever been so why am i asking questions .To begin with my mother who is 80 has turned my siblings against me and my older children. how can she do that you my ask , she is very clever in that way.
i remeber as a child she never praised me for anything I achevied at school even though my academic record was far better than my siblings, she even told me when I was 7yrs old that she hated me and loved her own mother more than me just because i didn,t want to go into town with her.
She payed for both my siblings weddings but not mine (I am the youngest)she never even came to it. She says it was because I invited my father (they were Divorced)when my youngest was born she never even sent me a card she is always praising my siblings but never me even though I have bought my own home gone to university and brought up three children single handed and watched my eldest die I hate the way I,ve been treated is it my fault?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Of course it is not your fault - this is your mothers choice to be so cruel and unless you tried to murder her in her sleep i can't imagine how it could be your fault in any way, shape or form.
This sounds like it is a very destructive relationship for you and i woner how much it effects your self worth and esteem - it cant have positive effects surely.
I guess it is to late in the game for "seperate yourself" to be effective as i am guessing due to her age and the reality of her not being around forever are hitting home with you. Maybe bringing up issues of wanting to at least understand where all her resentment towards you come from let alone any kind of resolution??
Without being to prying - and obviously you don't need to answer these in a blog, but is it possible that there ARE reasons for her resentment even though they are not your fault?
I hate to be morbid and conspiracy theory here but you do often hear of this type of thing where ther has been cases of: Dads not being the real fatheres and the mother being reminded of her infidelity / or a love she couldn't have; Cases of sexual abuse in the family; Wanting a boy for some cultural or religious reasons; etc...
Please don't get me wrong, i am not saying any of this HAS happened, just exploring possibilites that are not just "evil mother" pure and simple.
Have you tried asking your mum about where her anger and resentment towards you comes from - and not in the form of "why do you hate me so much" but in the form of "Mum, did something happen surrounding my birth or afeter that was traumatic for you, because i get the feeling i insight resentment in you and maybe if there is something i don't know about it would help you to share it with me, i'm a big girl, i can take it..." type thing??? just a silly idea probably but if it hasn't been tried.....?
If non of this applies, get conselling if you havent already and walk the #*#* away girl - you don't deserve this kind of cruel, unrelenting punishment.