I am dealing with a father in law,,dealing with major codependancy,,a son who wont confront father and tell him why i am upset but lies instead,thinking to spare this fathers feelings,,son was abused by this man all his life,called names,worthless stupid etc,,then father says hes dying of cancer,hoping to gain sons sypathy,,no one beleives this mans even got cancer,,all his other kids have nothing to do with him,,he calls step daughter wingnut because she wont listen to his telling her where to live,getting the idea? anyway last month when my bf finally does things for our house,,his father reemed him out in front of me cutting him down saying son does nothing for him,meanwhile Bf always does things for him,,just worked on his car,painted it etc for a week when this happend i hit the roof,,since then i wont have a thing to do with him,,hes a abusive old man,can do for self but uses John,plays on johns kind heart his father caled every day sometimes three times a day,to check up to see if johns doing what father wanted,we now dont answer phone,,so what does this man do,,ask grand kid,,why arent they answering phone,,and when we went on a weekend trip leaving son with him he asked that and said i dont know why you couldnt go,,to me plating seeds in childs mind,joh saw him before i came on scene practically every day,,,counselor said you have codeopendancy here,,he said i know GF told me this too,,now hes playing the woes me act,playing on johns sypathys,not coming to grand sons birthday tonight caues i dont like him,,whats everyones view,,? my Bf wotn be honest with him and tell him why im upset,,just lies to him and says we are busy,,thats why we didnt answer phone,,im so close to walking,,
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