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i am young. 21 years old. my boyfrined is 30. he has a 6 year old from previous relationship. we have a 3 year old son together. i would like to have more children...one more to be exact... but it is a constant fight between us two. he says no. i dont know what to do about it or how to talk to him about it without a fight errupting. he says he doesnt want anymore kids because he already has two. i try and tell him that is unfair for me considering i didnt help him make the first one. it is getting to the piont where i am ready to fake being on birth control or just leave him altogether. i love him very much and i think it would be wrong to leave for someone else just to have another baby. but i dont know what else to do. we dont have too great of jobs but we do get a lot of help from family and friends. i dont think it is that big of a deal to start planning on having another child. am i wrong or right?
StarrySummerSkies
Hey hey hey.. i had a similar situation. My bf og 5 years n i disagreed about the reproductive method. He didn't want biological kids because he feared passing cancer genes onto them. He pushed sperm donor and/or adoption. It drove me mad and we went to social workers and counseling together. Eventually I realized it was an uphill battle and gave that relationship up. Not to say you should do the same thing. It's just first off you need to determine if you can compromise. If not, bringing another kid into the world is unfair and traumatic to both the kid and you. Good luck.
StarrySummerSkies
And no, it's not selfish of you to want another baby. It's your right and you outa respect your own life desires and goals.
deleted_user
Don't try and trap him by getting pregnant he will only resent you and your babys. You have many years to have another baby. Maybe it's time 4 a change
deleted_user
Don't fake birthcontrol, but if you find this to be a deal breaker for you, then let him know, and do what is best for you and your little boy.
deleted_user
YES.. you are wrong. Why would you want to bring another child into the world, when the father does not want it. Why is it... all about what you want? As a married couple you are supposed to make decisions together. I'm not saying he is right or you are wrong, but really... children are expensive and if neither of you have excellent paying jobs with the ability to put 3 children through college, why would you even consider it... family and friends are not always going to be there to help you and that is no example to set for your children.
deleted_user
I think that you have the right to want another child. But maybe you should look at the bright side, your only 21. Maybe give it a few years, work on making better lives for all four of you now, and maybe in a few years he won't be as stressed about having another child if the situation is a little better off. Your young and have plenty of time. Maybe for a little while focus on other things you want to do, other goals you have, and see how the relationship goes and if you two can compromise. Good luck
deleted_user
YOU ARE STILL VERY YOUNG....MAYBE IF YOU WAIT SOME YEARS HELL CHANGE HIS MIND..
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