My sister paid my way across the country out of an abusive relationship, and, in exchange, I'm watching her 10 and 6 year old sons. She works grave yards (some times up to 18 hr shifts), so she needs someone to watch the kids! At first I thought this would be an ideal situation, but now I have serious doubts!! She's gone around the clock either sleeping or working, and we rarely see her! The kids dad is out of the picture because he tried to stab my sister in front of the oldest boy, and is obviously mentally screwed up big time!! The youngest has diabetes type 1, so I'm monitoring, recording, measuring and giving shots all day long! Not to mention the fact that he (the youngest) has major social issues from spending the first 1& 1/2 years of his life in squallier and rarely spoken to! He's also got major anger control issues (as does the oldest)!! Yesterday, for the first time, I found myself screaming at the top of my lungs at them, and it gets harder every day! Her kids don't seem to remember or respect me at all, and I just feel like detaching because I don't know what to do for them!! My sister CAN'T afford counseling for them on top of all the medication she's already paying for too!! I want everyone to know that she had to work, because the father of her children wouldn't keep a job, so a lot of the boys issue are just plain not her fault at all, but we live in an endless cycle that keeps spiraling downward!! Her job WON'T let her work days (though she's been there for 9 &1/2 years), her boys don't listen to a word I say, I'm depressed all the time, and she's depressed, sleep deprived and has had pneumonia three times this year already! I feel trapped and so does she!! She can't work days, I have nowhere else to go, she never gets enough sleep, I'm constantly trapped in the house with 0 adult interaction, ect... What can I do about this with no resources and no help?!?
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