Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
i have a suposidly odd family history. in a nut shell it goes like this. my dad was never around when i was a kid and when he was it was just to yell at me. when i got older i began to understand that my dad chose not to be home with us. i always heard my mom ranting about how my dad was never around, how he was always out ith his friends. my dad was around more when my brother was born. he spent time with my brother, took him for hikes in the woods, bought him a dirt bike, and ignored me. my dad constantly lets me know that my plans for the future, and me in general arnt good enough for him. he compairs my brother and i to our cousins, and only has bad things to say about us. he calls me fat, he calls my brother stupid, but he is nice to his friends, and he is nice and plays with our cousins. he loves them, i guess they are good enough. i dont understand what i did wrong, or what i could do to make him proud of me. i hate him for all the pain he has caused me, and i feel guilty for it every minute, because it must be me that isnt right, it must be my fault. why do other kids get dads who care about them, but not me? why dosent my dad love me...?
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First, You didn't do anything wrong! It is all 100% your dad.. He's got no appreciation for his own family, and that is his very own big problem. It has become your problem, because he's your dad, and we all want our dad's to love us, It is so important, I don't know why. My dad was emotionally distant to me growing up and wasn't very good until I was older. It caused a lot of hurt, so I went out with a guy that would piss him off, which ended up hurting me more in the end. I wish your dad and you could get some help for this problem. I think deep down he doesn't like himself, he might be taking it out on you. I don't know why this happens. But it's kind of abusive, and he's probably not capable of giving you what you need. I don't know if there's anyone you could talk to to help with this. But the pain he's inflicting on you now, might hurt your chances and your life in the future, for a long time, unless you get some help with developing your own self-esteem and getting love you need in a HEALTHY way. Please don't think you'll fill that void with boy's attention because that's a dead-end road. Best wishes!
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You arent the only kid whose dad treats them badly.and its not just you he treats badly so it cant all be your fault. Maybe he "loves" other kids cause he dosent have to take care of them, maybe if he had to live with them he would call them names too. I don't know your dad, but I know my husband, and they sound a little alike. He always treats other kids better because people are looking. he does love his daughter, he just dosent know how to show it, he calls her stupid too. she feels the same way you do. I don't think you have done anything wrong at all.....
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