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i bought my 14 year old daughter

deleted_user
deleted_user
a nice camera, and i asked her to take one picture of me, i got dressed up, in nice cloths, it would of just taken a second, and she refused. i am so angry, i spent 100 dollars on it, and she bascially told me no,,i have been working hard on myself, to look better, i will be 55 this year, so i figure i have a few good photos left, i am so disgusted, she keeps all picture or vidieo of me that are negative, in fact she showed me a vidio she took of me last summer takeing out the garbage, i was angry because she doesn't help, with it, so in the vidio i was tired and angry, i feel like she wants to make me look bad all the time, i really wish i could get a breck from it, i decided not to talk to her, for a while, because i am so tired of her nasty attitude, she didn't thank me for the camera, she just complained all day, i feel so alone, she always goes out of her way to make me look, either, old, ugly or mean, it really hurts, i find myself counting down the days till she is eighteen, and i can go live my own life, rather then be trapped in this insanity no i am not perfect but i have never hit , or abused her in any form, i am very sad now, because i feel so alone,
annieheart
annieheart
SHE IS IN THE BEGINNING OF HER TEENS,SUCH A SELFISH AGE.I CALL THEM THE MEAN TEENS.WHAT CAN BE GIVEN CAN BE TAKEN AWAY.TO A TEENAGER MOMS ARE OLD AND EMBARRASSING.I WOULD NOT TAKE IT TO HEART AND JUST WORK ON HOW SHE IS SAPOSE TO SPEAK TO YOU WITH RESPECT,UNFORTUNITLY WE HAVE TO DEMAND IT SOMETIMES.I AM 47 MY 20 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER THINKS I AM OLD AND EMBARESSING! I USE IT TO MY ADVANDAGE,LOL.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have a 15 year old daughter.. if she ever refuses any of my requests she would be in a world of hurt! At 14 she is totally dependent on you. She can not drive, can not provide her own food, her own clothing... etc.. You need to take your power back.
My daughter and her friends are snarky at times.. when they first got their cell phones and cameras.. I saw a very unflattering picture of my daughter's friend's mother on the internet.. I told my daughter if she ever did that to me I would take her cellphone and ipod away! Just because you gave her the camera doesn't mean you can't take it away. Once they are 18 we will have no control over them.. but right now if she is disrespecting you. you can refuse her wants.. like driving her to meet her friends.. taking her shopping for cool clothes.. etc
deleted_user
deleted_user
U need to remember u r the parent hun...if she cant respect and help u...stop giving help and respect to her. Take the camera and tell her u bought it so well...by law its urs since shes a minor. And then no rides, no allowance, no movies, and to top it off....have her wash her own clothes, make her own food and clean her own dishes. My niece pulled this with my sister, she went to school one day and came home to her bedroom stripped of everything but 5 outfits (of moms choosing of course) one for each school day, and her bed and alarm clock. Then my sister called and had her phone shut off, which if temporary costs nothing, and made her walk to school rain or shine. My neice got the point really fast, and it still took 3 weeks before she began earning her items back a lil at a time. All it took was one room and a lock. No more goodies if u dont deserve them.
deleted_user
deleted_user
thanks i love it, i woke this morning, and read this, i am going to take back control, it is getting out of hand,,i really appreciate the support..
Kahlua13
Kahlua13
You can control you. You can't control her. That's the first thing. so don't blow up. But when she asks you for something, say "I will happy to do X when you take my picture like I asked." You should look up "Love & Logic Learning" on line. Great program! Also, remember she is at that age where kids and parents just don't see eye to eye. I had this huge love/hate relationship with my mom when I was 15-18. We even went through a period after that during college where we did not speak. I am 46 and my mom is 64 and we are best friends now and I love my mom. Just take a deep breath. It will get better!

My son is 14 and he pulls on my every nerve sometimes and I find myself at times doing the same thing- counting down until he is 18! I have my days where I think "How do parents survive this?" "How do kids grow up to be tax paying, hard working adults and parents?" Coming here helps!
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