My husband and I have been married almost 10 years. I pretty much raised his children, he has 5 from 3 different women. We did not know about the last one until we were married and it was from a relationship before me. Anyways, I have a son from a previous marriage and he does not see his dad. His kids are good, his oldest son has always been a handful but mine wasn't exactly perfect. His oldest is 18 and is still living with us. He is a second year senior and is hopefully going to graduate this year. His next oldest is almost 17 and is a sophmore and living with us while his daughter is 15 and lives with her mom. My son lives with us he is 14 but he has been staying with my mom. My son's things have been stolen from his room and I have even busted my oldest step-son with some of his things and my husband didn't really do anything but "talk" to him. His daughter was busted stealing from me last year and when she was confronted she called her mom who came to my house and got into my face about it. MY husband said it was both of our faults. Anyways I have put locks on all the bedroom doors but my son won't come home, he is still upset at his brother. Steve and I separated in 2004 for 2 years, we got into a fight and I told him I thought he should leave (I meant for the night) and he left for 2 years. Since he has been back things have gone back down hill. He sleeps on the couch, this started because I was having problems sleepig with his snoring and now he doesn't come into the bedroom. He won't discuss any of our problems and refuses to go to counseling. When we did go to counseling before the split it didn't help. I have been seeing a counselor for years and the first one thinks he has some sorty of mental issue, possibly bi-polar. She thinks it has to do with an underlying problem from his childhood and doesn't have to do with me. He did take paxil for awhile and it seemed to help but now he refuses to take it and blows up on the drop of the dime. He said is "done" last time he said to give him 2 weeks and they would be gone. Well that was over a month ago and today he said that he was "done" fighting with me. I have a feeling he is planning to leave but am not sure. He tells me he still loves me but says the most horrific things and when i try to talk he talks over me and tells me I just want to argue. I don't know what to do. I love him but I can't live this way, my son won't even come home. HELP!
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