Family Issues Support Group

Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.

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Hello!I'm new to this,having never been part of a chat room before.I guess the news of my 18 year old daughter being pregnant has caused me to face up to what kind of a family this would be to come in to,and I don't like it.My daughter's boyfriend doesn't see their relationship lasting much longer and he doesnot want the child,yet should my daughter keep the baby he would take his responsibility seriousy and says that both he and his Mum loves it already.They had both just started at university but neither are enjoying it.My daughter says that she doesn't want to live alone with the child.Should she stay in this house,I know my husband would have no hands on contact with it.He is very unemotional but does practical things for people if it doesn't inconvenience him too much.My 15 year old daughter gets what she wants by pushing me around or taking my things to hide.She often doesn't go to school.My 13 year old son is on the autistic spectrum.He is quite able but his behaviour can be challenging and he can be very violent.Nanny lives with us and at 90 years old she demands a lot of attention.For a very long time I have thought of leaving but I have nowhere to go,little prospects.I also feel that until my 15 year old is older and because of my son,I have a duty to stay.Yet,maybe now is the time to leave,go with my 18 year old and support her.There is nothing between myself and my husband to suggest that we are supposed to be married.I do everything in that house for everyone,and I feel so weak and wet and annoyed with myself.Any advice anyone?
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Well it sounds like you have your hands full.. i think in all reality if your Daughter decides to have the child and keep it you will have another member of the family living there. your grandchild.. It is prob not going to happen that you will be leaving behind a nanny hubby and the others.. I know I have a very ill mother here my son his son his sons mother.. my husband who is terminal.. and I am the caregiver.. I think of escapes at times but I really know this is where my heart is and even though it's hard at times the Grandchild makes everyday worth it. good luck in any discision you make.. Love D
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You must feel incredibly frustrated- you have so much on your plate.

I know that you want to leave- but your son and daughter, (even though she doesn't act like it-) they need you.

Talk to your daughter about her options. Adoption can be an amazing thing. Show her, that you can LOVE something so much and give the baby to a better home, and love yourself enough to finish school.

Keep in touch.
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You need to listen to your heart and decide what you want to do for YOU. Your children will always need you, but you can only help them by taking care of yourself first. What is going to make you happy? Leaving with you daughter, and supporting your other children as you can or staying and continuing on as you have? Unfortunately, only you can make that call. Good Luck.
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