I am new to this community. I have been with DS for about 2 months now. I have chronic pain depression and PTSD from a car wreck in 06. My husband and i have been married for 6 months(today) we have been together for 3 1/2 years. he went to prison for trying to help out a friend for a year in 06 he got release almost a year ago. we had a great relationship before he left. we compromised and listened to eachother. now it is different. he doesnt think he has changed at all and most of the changes have been in the last 3-4 months. we both work and have a joint checking account. he controls all of our money and if i need something it is a battle to get money out of him. he doesnt tell me what happens with our money. even from my own checks. we have been fighting for the past 3 days because i tore my last pair of pants and he doesnt think its necessary to buy more. he complains about his job constantly and when i suggest get a new job he says he tried but no one will hire him. he didnt try at all. he looked at some newspapers that all. also my mom and little brother are living with me and he talks crap about my little brother to me all the time. even after i have asked him not to. i cant go out with my friends without it being a battle. and if i do he drops me off and picks me up in MY car. he takes the car to work everymorning and leaves me to find a ride. he also makes me feel bad if im in pain and cant perform sexually for him. or if im tired. he says stuff like " are you cheating on me" and " what you dont want me anymore" we do have an active sex life but he wants it at least once a day and i cant perform for him that much and he doesnt care. It is making me feel like a piece of meat. also stupid little things like we have to watch what he wants or listen to what he wants in the car. i had to beg him for 3 months to get a cell phone. and when i did he would make comments like "talking to your boyfriend again huh" or there you go off in oyur own world" i cant even talk to my sister without getting crap for it. I dont know what to do you guys. evertime he gets mad it gets worse. last time he kicked the bedroom door in cause i locked him out. he was calling me psycho and i was sick of hearing it, i am thinkin about divorce but i dont want to give up so early. he wont go to counseling. any suggestion? Oh BTW sorry for the long letter.
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