After meeting with our marriage counselor today, I\'ve decided to take to heart that in all fairness and for the sake of #1 my daughter and #2 my marriage that a friendship with my Ex, my daughter\'s biological father simply is detrimental to my marriage. When he calls, it\'s never to ask for or about her, it\'s always been to talk to me about His problems and is quick to tell me to leave my husband over the slightest thing. \"The fact that he calls MY wife and does not talk about MY daughter pisses me off and is not right.\" He\'s absolutely right. Instead of taking care of his daughter, he is taking on his puerto rican girlfriend and her two kids, plus the two that he shares with his soon to be drug crazed ex wife. (The ex wife is the reason for the removal of his parental rights, which he was eager to give up as it was anyway). I love my husband, even if sometimes I do not show it by accepting the phone calls. I have come to the conclusion that it\'s time, next time he calls to answer and tell him straight up that \"you know how to reach me should you want to call to talk about our daughter, and until then, please do not call.\" It\'s as simple as that. If he can be an adult about it that would be great but I don\'t expect it. He dislikes my hubby and my hubby him, both have validated reasons within reason. However, it\'s best to let bygone\'s be bygone\'s. After all, it isn\'t about them, he and I even - it\'s about my daughter - who if I keep this up is going to have a complex! and wonder why her father asks to talk to me but not to her. She is the one it will do the damage to. Her father isn\'t necessary and is more of damage than a good thing at this time. I hope in the future that things will change. Does anyone have a smililar story? She\'s asked me why her father doesn\'t take care of her and I told her \"it\'s because he can only afford to take care of your brothers, just like Dad and I take care of you and your sisters.\" I feel horrible for lying but I don\'t want her to be anymore depressed than my poor darling already is. I wish my ex would grow up already. What in his mind is justifying him taking care of another woman\'s children and not ONE of HIS OWN? I\'ve lost any ounce of respect I had for him. I hope he doesn\'t ask me to give him a piece of my mind. This really angers me. Part of me wants to tell him so but another part of me says no, do not let your anger get the best of you. How frustrating!
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