Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I am 21 years old and living with my fiance who is 28. He has severe health problems and cannot work. I can't help but feel frustrated and angry at him all the time because it feels like he can't do anything to make life easier. He whimpers and moans all the time and it is getting on my nerves. I have been home recovering from a car accident, and he is not doing anything around the house. I just need someone to talk to about him. He complains that his chores (taking out the trash and dishes) are killing him. He goes to the chiropractor and takes heavy painkillers everyday. I am afraid for his health, it seems like he isn't getting any better. I feel bad getting angry with him because he isn't healthy like me, but I can't help it. Am I going crazy? Is this normal? I can't help but think, if this man can barely get out of bed and wash dishes, how are we going to have a family? He keeps saying that he is going to go to school and get a job when he is better, but when will that be? I can't afford to float the whole household by myself forever. I don't want a forum to complain all the time, but I need someplace where I can vent and receive feedback about my situation. I am living 3000 miles away from all my family and friends and I have nobody to talk to. Any takers?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
I respect that you love him and were willing to move 3000 miles to be with him. I also respect that you've taken on the burden of being the "parent" in this relationship. But, as much as he may act like it, HE IS NOT YOUR CHILD!!!! Children are the ONLY people you should ever make yourself completely responsible for and ironically enough, that is so you can teach them to be responsible for themselves.
Keep in mind that you teach others how to treat you by the way you treat yourself and right now he's learning that the only one who has to do any giving in this relationship is you. In one short paragraph, you have shown that you have a big heart, a great mind and an extraordinary work ethic. Do you REALLY want to give such a precious gift as yourself to a guy who neither appreciates it nor is willing to do anything to support or encourage it?