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Father Trouble

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In Sept. my husband was in between jobs and we got behind on our bills, so I called my dad to see if he could loan us some money. He did and at Christmas he told us that we didn't have to pay him back if we would just accept that as our Christmas present, so we did. Well my mom has been fighting him over past child support for practically my whole life and now that I am 23 and my brother is 25 the court system is actually making him pay it. It gets taken out of his checks each week and it pisses him off. So he calls us the other day and says that we have to repay him all the money because now that his wife quit her job (because he was making enough to pay all their bills) they can't make it. She just bought a new Explorer, gambles in a local game room every night, and is a pill head, so that tells you where 50% of his money is going. I told him it was a gift and that I am not going to pay him back. His lovely wife needs to be happy with the car she had (it was a 04 caddy) it was to old so she thinks, quit gambling every night and go to rehab!!!
Am I wrong??
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I really wish I had some kind advice for you, but I don't. Maybe if you told your dad you would give it to him if it was for him, but it 's not it's for his stung out wife that wants to spend his money like it was all for her pleasure. If it was for any other reason, you would, in a heart beat.

Thats just my thoughts....
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if your dad said it was a gift you shouldn't have to pay it back.
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you owed him the money.. UNTIL he said it was a gift...
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