Family Issues Support Group

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Im 15 years old. my family isnt the "leave it to beaver" picture perfect family. we dont go to each other with our problems. me and my mom dont go out shopping like other daughters and mothers. My brother who is a year older than me has down syndrome. August of this year my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. it was hard because i couldent tell her how i felt and what i wanted to say. the day i found out i cried for hours. every cancer story i have ever heard always ended with the person dying. i didnt want to see my brother without a mom. i didnt want to see my dad without a wife. the hardest part about it was that we couldent talk about it. and my friends would shy away from the subject. she couldent take my brother to all his special olympics games. she couldent go to my cross country meets. i would cry at night because i just kept thinking that i would be sitting in school and they would call me to the office and telling me that she past away. and that i would never see her again. even if we dont talk that much i still love her and i dont want her to go.
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My mum died of cancer when i was 22 - she had it since i was 16. - that said though, her form of cancer was very sever compared to most breast cancer strains, so it is important to take that into consideration when people are comparing because all cancers are different and some have higher fatality rates than others. So take heartt - breats cancer is usually one of the most treatable hun.

Amids this tragic time you have been offered a gift in discuise by the sounds of things. You may be presented with an opportunity to "bridge the gap". I think it would do you both the worl off good if you were to share with your mum exactly what you have shared here. You could even put it in a letter if face to face communication of this nature is too uncomfortable or intense.

I truly believe with all of my being that if you were to brave it take this chance that you would be offering your mother a tremendous gift of soul food and spiritual healing.

You have no idea the affects that offerings of love and kindess can have on a cellular level for those experiencing terminal illness.

This could be the best thing in the world, not only for your mum, but for your relationship with her.

Many hugs and blessings for you sweety, let us know how you are getting along throughout this bumby journey.
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Sweetheart, it's okay to cry. Did they catch it early? Not every cancer patient dies in fact there are many who have survived. I'm sure your mom is upset too, but I'm sure if you tell her how you are feeling she will understand. I don't know if your religious, but I believe God put through the struggles we go through to only make us stronger. I'm sure that you will overcome. I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to. If you don't want to talk do writing, listen to music, sing, or exercise.
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You can talk to your family. Start a new tradition. You will regret every word you didn't say. If you only can write it and give it to your mom, do it. She needs your encouragement and it sounds like you have an awful lot to give. Yes, my aunt passed away from caner, and yes, it is typically linked to dying, but we had what we thought was two weeks turn into six months. I am so thankful that I shared those days with her and put my fear of intamacy aside. She knew she was so loved and wanted that the whole day she was dying she said she wasn't going anywhere she was staying right here with us. We all can revel in the fact that we got to say what we wanted to. You will cling to that, so my suggestion is to do it. God Bless.
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I agree with add123, if you can't tell your mom face to face about your fears and concerns write her a letter. She will cherish that for the rest of her life.
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