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Ex-BIL's new GF is pregnant

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So, my BIL seperated from my sister earlier this year (she was cheating and didn't even know if her youngest kid was his or not) and has moved on with his life. My sister gave him the kids so she could go do whatever it is she does, so the kids live with him. The rest of us still see the little guys from time to time and I cherish every moment of it. But, now BIL's new girlfriend is pregnant. I am happy for them, but this raises some interesting questions in my mind.

BIL's first two kids are my nephews and I love them dearly, but how do I react to this new baby? In my mind it seems as though it should just be that new baby is a sibling of my nephews, so new baby is the same as my nephews. But, I am not sure that will go over very well with the girlfriend or even with the BIL.

Any idea of how to handle this situation?
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An awkward situation... You could "play it by ear". If they seem/act uncomfortable with you holding/interacting with the baby, you could keep your focus on the other two children. Time will tell, also,-- as the baby gets older. Good Luck.
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Maybe if there is an appropriate opportunity you could just openly communicate your concerns to Bil as you have here. Its obvious that your coming from a good place and that its about not wanting to cause divisions or jealousies between the kids - which is a positive thing.
I think if his new GF is a caring person and loves your Bil then she would want whats most comfortable for ALL the kids involved. It is now going to be a blended family whether GF likes it or not really. Just do what feels comfortable and loving without acting like you are claiming Aunty rights.
But most of all i think you need to discuss it with your Bil, then he can broach it with the GF.
Good luck with it all.
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