My dysfunctional sister is someone who has always been back and forth to everyone's home. She has a son and a daughter and lived with just about all of our family members multiple times including me and our mother among some of her friends and others. There was even a time where she stayed with her two kids in a garage. Most of the time, everyone was just trying to help her but she usually just got into a heated argument with someone and just picked up and left moving to another person's home. Her kids father is in prison and unfortunately things escalate. Well, about 4 years ago she let her son go and it was just her and her daughter. She got section 8 apartments for them. But eventually that went wrong and I guess she was very verbally abusive to her daughter and they must have gotten into numerous physical altercations as she is an alcoholic. This led her daughter go to live with her daughter's other grandmother, not my mom.
She got another apartment just for herself. But she gave up that apartment and the governmental assistance which really upset mom. She let that apartment go because she was dancing naked in front of a window and had her music really loud. Our mother thinks she did this purposely to get evicted especially because when she was doing that, the police were involved and a doctor called to tell that she was very intoxicated.
And so, she left to live with her father again out of state. Now at this time, her son was going to jail a lot and he lived with his sister at their other grandmothers home. It got to a point where her son had a baby not to long ago and her daughter was living on the streets with men. My sister then got mad when her father, who had gotten mad at her, told her that she needed to get up and do something for herself so she just left him and came back to her mother. She stayed 3 months and didn't do anything. Anytime she was supposed to just get some ID or resources she always came up with some negative excuse. This made my mother furious to she just set a date for when she'd must leave the apartment. And on that date, my sister purposely got into an argument where she'd just say anything to make my mother mad and just left again.
This whole thing continued for another year in which everything got worse. Her son went prison at only 19 years old. Her daughter was hurting herself physically over grown men. And she got worse herself because she was now living on the streets because my mom and her father weren't taking that anymore. It has gotten to a point where my mother cannot give her money anymore because she will just use it on alcohol instead of what she was supposed to do. So mother cannot trust her to do anything she's supposed to do. And mother has been through this same thing for years.
Since my mother was no longer letting her stay anymore and do the same thing and since she refused to go to a shelter so many times, she let her call her father. Well, her father was hesitant to give her another chance to do something for herself but he let her and of course she just stayed at his house and did nothing but drink and raise her hand at him. So he had to put her in a chokehold to restrain her. Then she flew back over here with us. Mom continues to tell her she cannot stay and will not let her stay because she won't do anything and will just sleep on the couch and drink. But she keeps coming asking to take showers and trying to make her feel sorry.
Mom has said doesn't want to hit her and go to jail but she's sick of her coming just to piss her off. What's worse is that she isn't particularly violent but she basically annoys and irritates her so much in the way of trying to provoke her to do something violent which is actually almost as bad if not as bad. It's basically like anything our mother tells her to do, she doesn't do it and does the opposite because she has told her so many times to stay away yet she keeps coming to irritate. Mom views this as mental abuse and we can tell she drinks anytime she can and will please. So what should my mother do? She has asked me but I've have no idea of what she should do. Please help.
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