The first memory I have of this woman is hatred, and rightly so. She has always been the same with my mother as well, for no reason. She loves my sister, who looks and acts just like my Dad did. I look and act like my mom, and the "Aunt" always loved his ex-wife more and never gave my mom a chance, even my Dad had said so. So Dad passed a lil over a yr ago, and let the whole family know I was to get his medical things, walkers, bed, scooter.....as I was born with a spine disease and am disabled. Due to his violent behavior close to his end, he had to live with my "Aunt" because we were afraid he would seriously harm or even murder my mom or my half-brother (which he did not like for some reason, EVER). When he passed, she gave me his walkers, that was it. Gave me his meds, have no clue why and gave my mom his clothes. The loved sister got his mementos and such as well as the other two surviving children by his ex. She actually lied to us about his wallet, which we needed the info from nothing more. She was in control of his money and all. So she has us believing my half sister "stole his wallet, and had already asked for the scooter, bed and other items." I couldn't reach this sister, as we had lost two brothers and our dad all within 2 yrs. Once it was all sorted out, my mother called to let her know we would be to collect his things in one week. The "Aunt" told my mom if she let her keep those items she would in turn pay the funeral costs for my Dad, which was fair as we were planning on selling the items we didnt need to put toward the costs. Now, I assume the funeral is paid off at this point as I plan on contacting the funeral service soon. If it IS paid off, (I am now almost 28 and she has always let me know she depised me), is it fair that I call her and tell her how selfish and childish she has been, especially at the time I had just lost my DAD? And let her know that I have never needed her affection but I do hope that one day she realizes that the hate will get her no where.? And to tell her that it was absolutely, most importantly, uncalled for and disrespectful to act as she did when my Dad passed by not only lying to us but also causing one sister to be labeled a thief? Or do I just make sure the bill is paid and let it go, as I no she will never change. I just want to know if I am wrong in my wanting to alert her that I know what she has done all these years and that her "grand finale" wasnt lady like nor "grand" in anyway, shape or form?