My sister is getting married and has always acted with 2 faced for family and friends. She is slightly paranoid and think people are out to get her. When she got engaged we found out online, and didn't seem that interested when we asked her. She has showed no enthusiasm when family asks. Its not unusal for her but she is getting married and were excited. When we tried to engage her with information about the wedding she got defensive saying our family was over-involved. It blew up and I have reconciled slightly with her (I had to suck it up and apologize to her and she never accepted fault) and she has yet to talk about it with my parents.
She never asked me to be a bridesmaids yet assumed I knew. I heard her say to a friend that the only reason her sisters are involved in the wedding is cause of our parents. That really hurts me, over +20 years and our relationship is all for nothing? So days shes sweet and others I'm the enemy. Another sister of mine is still in the wedding as a bridesmaids but I was kicked out. After I reconciled with my sis getting married, my 2nd sis told me that if I want to be a bridemaid again apparently its open to me (my sis told her so) but I have to approach my sis. I feel likes its not fair that I have to say sorry when I did it already to reconcile with her, this is how she operates but I am really hurt about her words and don't know if I can. I want to tell her her words hurt but she doesn't see other peoples feelings and if I do than I may be breaking the ground we just rebuilt.
What Do I do?