I am 40 yrs old and have an older sister who is a real bully and I don't know how to deal with her. She constantly overeacts to the smallest things, takes everything the wrong way and is completely irrational. If you don't agree with her, she gets downright verbally abusive. She constantly brings up things from the past that happened over 20 yrs ago and is still fuming about stuff that I no longer wish to be involved in. I don't want to live in past anymore. The other siblings give in to her not to fire her up.She plays the victim all the time, whining over how bad everone treated her in the past. I have apologized for not being as close with her as I perhaps should have been when we were kids but the fact is, I was afraid of her! She was always mad and looking for an arguement and I'm just not into confrontation. She is the most oversensitive person I have even known. She's unpredictable, flies off the handle at the smallest thing, has a horrible temper and will never take any responsibility for her assertion that she was alienated from the family. This isn't true. The rest of us tried to get along with her but her harsh, sharp and nasty attitude pushed us away sometimes..she has lost many friends due to her temper. I'd like to get advice from a few of you on how to handle this. Whenever I am with her, I feel sick inside becuase I know it at some point she will get mad about something. I have been going out of my way to be nice to her. I never once brought up all the mean things she did to me in childhood. She is way too consumed with being a victim that she only sees her own drama. I'd like to chat further with some of you privately if you have any advice on how to deal with this. Thanks!
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