So my brothers girlfriend doesn't seem to be going anywhere so and is possibly the one. She's the first girlfriend of his that I don't get along with. My attitude and everything I say seem to get misinterpreted by her and her family. Her and her family are very close. They all think i'm rude and offensive. I've only met her a few times and she has yet to open up about herself. I don't know anything about her, so I tend to think that talking and sharing about myself helps to break the ice, so I sometimes say whatever. Last october at my brothers birthday party I had been drinking. I accidentally picked a fight with the one sister (she was all upset about who stole a cupcake) and talked all night with my brothers girlfriends sister. I was trying to get to know my brothers girlfriend better by talking to her sister and a lot of things were said. The next day the sister relayed the conversation to his girlfriend and their family. I didn't find out until a phone conversation with my brother on Christmas eve. When he told me about some of the things she said I realized she misinterpreted everything. He's said to me that he's had issues communicating with her family, but he made it out to be my fault for not being able to filter what I say, not communicating properly, and just opening up to her sister. He said there's now bad blood and her family dislikes me, so I told him I would apologize to his girlfriend and eventually her sisters. I finally saw him and his girlfriend yesterday. It was the first time since october. The whole night my brother was analyzing everyword I said and made me feel like what I was saying was wrong and hurtful. For instance when his girlfriend was saying that having sisters meant they steal clothes and I said that brothers steal clothes also. My brother used to steal my socks growing up and my brother was offended that I said that about him. Halfway through the evening I finally had alone time with his girlfriend when he went to use the bathroom. I told her that this wasen't the way I would normally apologize, but i didn't want it to carry out any longer. I said that I liked her and apologized for getting drunk and lossing my temper. The girlfriend said that she's been drunk and lost her temper before. I said I didn't want to go into any he said she said drama. She said that she has realized my family has a different way of communicating. As she said this my brother came back and so we ended the conversation very quickly. Now that I apologized I want to let it go, but i'm not sure if I should follow up with a more personal and sincere phone call apology.
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