Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Ok, I've been posting on here a few times lately. Again, about my teenage 17 year old daughter.
Bottom line is she absolutely hates me. I mean really loathes me. If I try to talk to her, she just freaks out, gets angry, twists things around and will just scream at me to get out etc. Then she will tell her father just her side of this. It just turns ugly, when my intention wss trying to work things out. I just can't get through to her. I can't blink and she hates me. My husband just believes her and I must just be abusing her or something. It's bizarre. I just can't cope with this.
I have been a good parent and I have never done anything to make her not respect me. She just says she doesn't like me, she hates me.
She came home tonight from work after I picked her up after she calls me to pick her up and then hangs up on me. She gets home and she says I give her looks, but she just gives me these looks like "what a bitch you are", she texts me and calls me that. So I stood in the door way of the bathroom and told her she is not to talk or look at me like that any more. She starts screaming for me to get out. I told her I will when she calms down, so she then starts to push me and hit me. So I just stood there and told her to calm down and this went on for a few minutes. She finally slammed the door in my face.
My husband thinks this is my fault. I'm at my wits end. I think there is more going on here. This is not mentally normal. Could this be depression. She has talked like she is depressed. Even if I had her at a doctors with this bizarre behaviour and he wanted to put her on antidipressants or something, my hubby wouldn't allow it and I would be afraid, because apparently it can trigger suicidal thoughts at this age.
What should I do. It's not normal to hate someone like this. This just seems like it's gone beyond normal "I hate my mother" sort of thing.
Bottom line is she absolutely hates me. I mean really loathes me. If I try to talk to her, she just freaks out, gets angry, twists things around and will just scream at me to get out etc. Then she will tell her father just her side of this. It just turns ugly, when my intention wss trying to work things out. I just can't get through to her. I can't blink and she hates me. My husband just believes her and I must just be abusing her or something. It's bizarre. I just can't cope with this.
I have been a good parent and I have never done anything to make her not respect me. She just says she doesn't like me, she hates me.
She came home tonight from work after I picked her up after she calls me to pick her up and then hangs up on me. She gets home and she says I give her looks, but she just gives me these looks like "what a bitch you are", she texts me and calls me that. So I stood in the door way of the bathroom and told her she is not to talk or look at me like that any more. She starts screaming for me to get out. I told her I will when she calms down, so she then starts to push me and hit me. So I just stood there and told her to calm down and this went on for a few minutes. She finally slammed the door in my face.
My husband thinks this is my fault. I'm at my wits end. I think there is more going on here. This is not mentally normal. Could this be depression. She has talked like she is depressed. Even if I had her at a doctors with this bizarre behaviour and he wanted to put her on antidipressants or something, my hubby wouldn't allow it and I would be afraid, because apparently it can trigger suicidal thoughts at this age.
What should I do. It's not normal to hate someone like this. This just seems like it's gone beyond normal "I hate my mother" sort of thing.
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She could be doing drugs, or drinking a lot, and that has affected her personality.
She could be mentally ill.
I hope that you could all three of you get into family counseling tomorrow and start unravelling this. You will be in my prayers.
We moved to a new province when she was 10. It was hard to adjust, it is a hardened unfriendly community and the school system has been difficult here. But, we had no choice and I think it was really and is really hard on her. I think she may be taking things out on me.
Plus, I don't like some of her friends, but can't switch them, because there is not alot of kids to choose from and she's too old for that now. I did do that a couple of times in the past. I think they've talked negatively about me or something, so now she hates me, because that's all she can do to lets say distance herself from me, so she thinks they won't think she's like me.
Whe also had another girl punch her at school and gave her a swollen and black eye. she slapped her too. I freaked out at the kid when I picked my daughter up. I think the kids might be saying I'm nuts or something. Not sure.
She's all about popularity and fitting in, and which kid isn't at school. Although, she's been hostile towards me off and on for the past couple of years. The kids out here are anti mother.
It's been horrible. So we're all going into counsellilng again.
And I was a stay at home mom. If we hadn't moved, I'm not sure this would have happened, at least to the degree that it has.
Thanks for input.
Something happened. She was put in with cold, uncaring teachers etc. out here and i did my best to protect her from it. We couldn't move back. I hate myself for it being hard on her.
Thanks for your input everyone.