I have been married for 14 years and have 3 wonderful stepchildren that my husband and I have had custody of after only 6 months of marriage. The 2 oldest are out of the house. One of them is working after not liking college, the other is in her second year of college. I still have one at home that is 17. I have a son the same age as my step and we have one together. After the background, I am needing some support regarding the step kids. I know I should not be jealous of their mother, after all she is their mother. But I have alot of resentment toward her and they have a hard time seeing all the bad she has done. I have given 13 1/2 years of my life to these kids, have raised them, nursed them, supported them, loved them, provided for them, taught them, and I seed to always fall second fiddle. She was the "fun" mom. I was the real parent. People tell me that as the kids get older they will appreciate what I have done for them, but as the oldest is 21, I have yet to see that. Does the appreciation at some point show? Am I stupid and selfish for feeling this way? I am just upset and feeling like crap right now...sorry
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