Family & Friends of Cancer Patients Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives, friends and caretakers of cancer patients. It's difficult to find a safe place to talk about caring for a loved one with cancer, and so this group serves as an open forum to foster positivity and support for those going through this tough time.
My brother and I have moved back to where our parents live because my mother is on palliative treatment for cancer.
However, we can not stop fighting. We have never had a harmonious relationship (except when I am doing as he commands). I was hoping we could put our differences aside for our mother's sack, but alas no.
When he is not repremanding me for any minor thing he can, he is launching a campaign against our mum. He believes she should be out living life, doing everything she has every wanted to do, even if she does not have the energy or strength to. He even believes she is faining some of her symptoms for the attention.
I am tired. I am trying to remain positive for my mother's sake, but I am tired of dealing with him. He never listens. We attended a session last week at the cancer council, whereby the nurse explained what our mother might be going through. He dismissed her opinion and continued on his current course of action.
I really don't know what to do. I want to be here for my mother, but I do not think I am able to provide any assistance or support in this environment.
However, we can not stop fighting. We have never had a harmonious relationship (except when I am doing as he commands). I was hoping we could put our differences aside for our mother's sack, but alas no.
When he is not repremanding me for any minor thing he can, he is launching a campaign against our mum. He believes she should be out living life, doing everything she has every wanted to do, even if she does not have the energy or strength to. He even believes she is faining some of her symptoms for the attention.
I am tired. I am trying to remain positive for my mother's sake, but I am tired of dealing with him. He never listens. We attended a session last week at the cancer council, whereby the nurse explained what our mother might be going through. He dismissed her opinion and continued on his current course of action.
I really don't know what to do. I want to be here for my mother, but I do not think I am able to provide any assistance or support in this environment.
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Have you told him how you feel? How is your mom dealing with him, does she realize the tension between the two of you? I am sorry your going through more stress than normal dealing with this.
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Could it be that your brother is in denial, and just doesn't know how to deal with your Mom being so ill? I just lost my Mom a year ago to cancer, and our whole family was in an uproar. I don't think any one of us were ourselves. We were all under more stress than we could handle, as you and your brother are. I will pray for you and your family. I know you are saying that you can't deal with your brother, but this is about your Mom, so try to stay strong. ~~~HUGS~~~
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
