Hello, I kind of know what you're going through. Some days are easier than others, and people just say to me that we can cope with so much. I hope things turn out well for your mum xx

thank you I agree so days are easier than others

hi there,
i know what your going though, my mum had aggressive cancer and i was a 24 hour carer for her as well. some days you will find are better and easier then others. but i am sorry to tell you but your stress levels are going to stay high for quite sometime. it is a big job caring for someone else and yourself at the same time. you need to take care of you and your mum and dont stress about anything else they can wait till your ready. things such as house cleaning and stuff like that coz you need to spend as much time as posible with her coz its amazing how fast time can go and you dont want to regret later on that you didnt spend to much time with her and things like that coz i can tell you i do regret it. the only time i spent with my mum was when she needed something or i would have a little chat with her if i wasnot busy but most times i cleaned the house, was a host for everyone else as well as running around food shopping and medication by the end of it its not worth it. now i regret not spending quality time with her.... but also you need a break. through hospice you can get a volunteer to come out and help you and what they do is come and sit with your mum while you go out and do some shopping or a coffee with a friend. the volunteers are trained and they know what to do if your not there.... you should use them or if not get a family member to take over for even just an hour you will feel alot better. if you need to talk i am here for you...

I've been trying to cope with all that goes into caring for a cancer patient and I forgot about me. You're on the right path by joining this support group. Learn all you can about the cancer and talk to the doctor. Again, stop every now and then and smell the roses.
Sherry