He goes thru these cycles where he makes up stuff about my mom. Just to make me mad. Why Why must he do this??

Its been a month or so since he's done this.

He might treat me okay for a minute. Then POW he starts in again, and it always deals with crap my mom is to have said.
blah blah blah..

It is the ups and downs in his mood with bp, it is treatable if he wants help, I dont know your whole story, if he is getting help he is still not stable. Many people function well with meds and therapy, but they have to want it and try hard. He cant help what he is doing if he is not in treatment, but he can get help. until then if you have talked to him and he is unwilling to stop using the bp as an excuse to treat you or others badly and act eratically then there is nothing you can do but just take it. I know it sounds harsh..with all that said I have found this link to be helpful above and beyond all others, I hope it can help you and others as well. Take care of you. Kathy

http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/bipolar/related/support.asp

He's a mess a 100%. Lies so much i duno what to believe. ={

He tried telling me on day he wasnt BP, cos he meds never worked for him. (but when he started them he always said I feel so much better now)

That he was on the lowest mg of meds they give a bp. Umm I told him it takes time before you feel a 100% cos' they have to find the right mg for you. Everyone is dif on that matter.

He said that cos the meds never worked he wasnt bp.. oy.. whatever . that i dont know any thing cos i dont have a PHD.

He did stop taking his meds. he told a me a few weeks ago he was back taken them.

a month ago he tried to tell me he was in the ward again for a weekend cos he OD's on coke cain and, crown .. but he had no marks in his arms and etc from an iv.. hello..

i just dont understand why heas to lie to me, try to control me, and say mean things to me, about me and my family.

My wife does that too, but I honestly believe that she actually believes what she embellishes sometimes. I am constantly being accused of either thinking something that I didn't or being made to say something that I didn't.

What freaks me out is everything that she hears wrong is always negative. I have been at party's and she always at the end will say someone was laughing at her or that she heard certain people saying certain things about her when I know that they never did nor would they. She does it with me in a normal conversation. I can't tell you how many times my mom has yelled at her while my wife was going off on her, "I DIDN'T SAY THAT!!!!!!"

I sort of know where you are coming from. I personally do not know how to deal with it as of yet.

He called me ask me if i was happy that i have him out my life for good!

He won't let go of the fact that i am happy without him!

I am not dealing with emotional, verbal abuse.
I am not being controled either..

life is much much better for me!!