Anger is appropriate when we are all seeking a common goal and that is how to deal with this problem. This site has allowed me to complain and vent and has helped me when I could see others having the same experience and frustrations as me. It has allowed me the joy of being able to share others my innermost frustrations and pain only to hear others that say that they are with me and have been there. I have been able to view my wife in a better light because of this site.

The following article I have taken from a website for us to see. :

What can I do with anger?

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Face the anger for what it is and don't avoid it. (face it don't avoid it)
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Identify the feelings at the root of the anger or depression.
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Use ``I statements'' to express the feelings of anger.
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Identify the guilt, resentment, rage, fear, embarrassment, depression involved in this anger.
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Confront the issues that stimulate the anger. Analyze them for what they are: stimuli drawing on deepseated subconscious feelings of anger that indicate unresolved emotional blocks from my past.
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Use imagery, role playing, an empty chair, or other object to confront past hurts and pains; express the submerged feelings that come out as I deal with this anger.
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Inform people in my current life of my need to analyze my anger responses; seek their assistance and understanding in this exploration process.
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If my current anger is not the result of efforts to uncover submerged feelings of old anger, then treat the current anger with rational ``I'' statements: ``I feel angry because ?''