Hello. I believe my husband suffers from bi-polar. His behavior was quite erratic. Our relationship was beautiful. He was very kind, loving, and open. There was a personal issue that came up that he had to deal with, he slowly feel into a depression. I noticed that he was not the person who dealt with issues and "took care of his business" as I always knew him to that type of person. Slowly, his behavior changed. He became distant (and still would not handle his business). The situation (which I was supportive of and tried to help him) only got worse. He became someone with whom I was not familiar. During one of our conversations he told me that he knew he was clinicall depressed and should be medicated until he can work out his issues (he works in the medical field and makes diagnoses). He refused to get help though. He refused to go to counseling. He refused to get medication. During one of his moments, he told me that a person with a lesser degree could not help him. Then in another instance, he told me that he knew he was putting me through alot and that he was working on not being controversial. He told me he loves and appreciates me and our marriage. One day, we were on our way to church. He told me he could not go and that he did not want to hurt me. He started crying. During that episode, he told me that there was something that was preventing him from being himself. He felt trapped. He said he was trying so so hard and couldn't be a good husband, brother, son, father, friend, etc. because he felt held back. I had to hold him. Still, he would not get help. I almost got him in counseling but decided not to go the day before the appointment. There are so many other things. Well, he had an episode and accused me of not caring, nothing I did was right. I was the blame for everything. He stopped talking---just shut down. He moved out. I have not heard from him. I said all of this to give a background. Due to things his mom has said to me and her asking me to help him get counseling, I know there is a family secret. I believe he is bipolar and narcisstic. WOuld someone please describe what goes on or what happens to you during an episode. I do not mean to be disrespectful. I hope I have not offended anyone. That is not my intent. I am just trying to find answers and understand. I would appreciate your time and response regarding my question. Thank you.
Posted on 01/24/08, 06:01 pm
Posted on 01/24/08, 06:01 pm
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