
Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.

deleted_user
and who the hell took my damn paddle!!! =[
i'm having trouble. the closer it gets to december the worse i'm doing with all my sh*t and paddles, it would be A LOT easier if i had a boat....
K... rant? cry for pity? support??? ANYTHING?
i'm so maxed out right now...
i don't know if anyone else here has some nasty habits but i sure as sh*t do, and i'm loosing it with them. i used to cut,....all the time...5-10 times a day? who knows. I stopped 10yrs ago. i decided it was really bad news....and that's that
i'm going home after graduation...soon....way too soon =[ heh stressing and freaking the closer it gets.
i'm not saying i'm all this worried b/c of my mum, or her being emotionally bad for me and violent, but i know it's there....i know its a huge part of it. b/c i know i'm NOT over ANYTHING and i hate that.
i want to be there for her and supportive, i can't just leave her alone?!
i've been digging my nails into myself ever since my step-father got sick last march [he died of cancer in arpil]
i don't even feel it....till it's too late.
celebacy?! yeah...thats gonna last long.... i'm not doing good on that one either.
honestly, school has me grounded right now
i have too much to do to be sick, to be upset....to go nuts and do something stupid.
but it's stressful too.
it's more stressful when i go home and stock the house up every other weekend with food, and clean and deal with being told that I"M a terrible burden....and how AWEFUL it is to live with someone like me.
i bite my tonge EVERY time, and no that's not a metaphor...i really bite the crap out of it.
she screams and goes on a tirade destroying the house and it's like i'm 7yrs old all over again
you want to know guilt? try this on for size...if something happens to her IT"S MY FAULT. b/c i'm the only one she'll let near her....ad trust me she's not too happy about it either
pls, someone say something funny? how can i tell her she need help? she's SO against any drugs or psychiatry [her father was a pdoc]
=[
i'm having trouble. the closer it gets to december the worse i'm doing with all my sh*t and paddles, it would be A LOT easier if i had a boat....
K... rant? cry for pity? support??? ANYTHING?
i'm so maxed out right now...
i don't know if anyone else here has some nasty habits but i sure as sh*t do, and i'm loosing it with them. i used to cut,....all the time...5-10 times a day? who knows. I stopped 10yrs ago. i decided it was really bad news....and that's that
i'm going home after graduation...soon....way too soon =[ heh stressing and freaking the closer it gets.
i'm not saying i'm all this worried b/c of my mum, or her being emotionally bad for me and violent, but i know it's there....i know its a huge part of it. b/c i know i'm NOT over ANYTHING and i hate that.
i want to be there for her and supportive, i can't just leave her alone?!
i've been digging my nails into myself ever since my step-father got sick last march [he died of cancer in arpil]
i don't even feel it....till it's too late.
celebacy?! yeah...thats gonna last long.... i'm not doing good on that one either.
honestly, school has me grounded right now
i have too much to do to be sick, to be upset....to go nuts and do something stupid.
but it's stressful too.
it's more stressful when i go home and stock the house up every other weekend with food, and clean and deal with being told that I"M a terrible burden....and how AWEFUL it is to live with someone like me.
i bite my tonge EVERY time, and no that's not a metaphor...i really bite the crap out of it.
she screams and goes on a tirade destroying the house and it's like i'm 7yrs old all over again
you want to know guilt? try this on for size...if something happens to her IT"S MY FAULT. b/c i'm the only one she'll let near her....ad trust me she's not too happy about it either
pls, someone say something funny? how can i tell her she need help? she's SO against any drugs or psychiatry [her father was a pdoc]
=[
Posts You May Be Interested In
-
theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
-
I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Sorry for the struggles you are having. I think we all have nasty habits here. Does brown stains in underwear count as a nasty habit? Chewing with your mouth open? Drooling at night? Excessive flatulence? Going to the bathroom and not turning on the fan? Leaving hair in the tub (curly kind)? Using your partners toothbrush to clean the rim of the toilet? I wasn't thinking of me in any of those things of course.
Can I recommend exercising instead of cutting or drilling your nails deep inside yourself? My wife drives me nuts sometimes but a good workout also suffices with me. I will spend 45 minutes downstairs using weights and I often finish with the lifecycle. Let stress be a motivator in that way you do something productive instead. You are seeking to release this stress out on yourself and that will never solve anything.
How do you tell your mom that she needs help? Maybe a serious heart to heart with her would help. Only you know your mom the best here. What might work for one person will not necessarily work for another. We all can give you various opinions but only you will know best. I know my wife but I also know that nothing I say will penetrate her head. Figure out to yourself, what talks have you had in the past with your mom that seemed to affected her the best? I'm sure that you have had a conversation before where you shared something with her and she responded very positively too that. Try that approach. Tell your mom calmly what her actions are doing to you. Offer to go with her to the doctor and that you will work with her on this.
If nothing works then you must realize that it is not your fault. You might have to move in with a friend to get rid of the amount of stress you face there. You are in a situation that you can up and go.
The best I can offer. Hang in there!!!
The only time I can talk to my mum is when she is stabilised and even then not for long because it gives her panic attacks talking about it.
You could try and talk to her in one of her more stable moments.
But....it takes a long time to get to this place, you will get there, you have to at times, emotionally detach yourself for your own sanity.
And Cody, mate, you really know how to turn a girl off - lol.
Perhaps the thought that you will not help her unless she gets help will motivate her.
I am sorry if I am suggesting things that might not be possible for you to do. I know how hard it must be, but you are entitled to have a life, and take care of yourself.
Holidays are the worst. I am a wreck from now to January. Also, my childrens birthday parties can send me into the same panic for some reason. I do alot of little stupid things that I cant account for.
We are only human...
I was actually joking my friend. No brown stains in my underwear.
thank you you guys....
brown stains....i need to remember that one! haha
i'm just so tired of hearing how guilty ppl with BP feel about what they do.
i feel guilty for being so hurt/angry, when i know the good side of her too.
Knowing she's more then this, and better then this....and that somewhere in there i'm the best thing that's ever happend to her. knowing this is an illness and not her saying these things? it kills.
we've talked somewhat candidly after a rage, but i always senced her guilt and just said everythings fine.
i tried moving out once and she became extremely anorexic/bulemic...to the point where her regular doctor made her wear a heart monitor cuz it was starting to fail. and then she threatened to kill her self.
i ended up sneaking my stuff out of there when she wasn't looking, and pretending that i still lived there. i know it doesn't seem like something you can do, but i've got enough art crap to fill-out the emptiest room. she still freaked on me constantly....it was worse then, just everytime she saw me. she'd call the friends house and leave angry messages...repeately.
this was right before she met my step-father, and i don't want to put her back there again =/
lol yeah i know the drilling my self shit is no good, and honestly...i do wear myself out and try everything in the book i've ever used on addiction. this one is hard cuz i'm not aware of it, and i can't predict it. i just need to take better care of myself.
"just keep swimming....just keep swimming"
i'm tearing in half with trying to decide where i'm going to live when i'm done here. I know i can't live there long. how to tell her so that she won't write me off? i dunno. if i leave that house i'm pretty sure we won't be speaking for a long time.
know where she's going on thanksgiving? soup kitchen...cuz she doesn't want to be bothered with family. we both are, and i think it's great to help out, i just wish it was for a reason other then, "family is such a pain in the ass, screw that"
yeah more excuses i know =/
i'm just so scared she will feel abandoned and not talk to me [like she did with the rest of the family for 3 some odd yrs]
yeah,...i can get out
and that means leaving my mother alone with that viscous thing in her head...whatever it is. =/
family tried an intervention once i suspect,...and that would be why we no longer really associate with them [bout 5 yrs ago?]
meh....sorry again for more ranting. i know i have to do these things
and i know you guys are all right in what you say. i just don't know how to live with a choice like that...feeling like i did the right thing. blood is blood, and even though i can get out...she's always my blood...who sick and no one else is willing to be there for her.
i think i mainly have as many friends as i do because they think i'm good at art. and honestly don't know/never really wanted to know if they would be there for me through something like this. most of my friends from highschool stopped are in rehab/have kids ya know the whole deal. they don't need more stress.
i don't want ppl thinking i'm a freak....so i need to work on talking to them....in stead of flipping out on here in a panic. sorry...
i know the holidays are crazy alround
specially for peeps here
but i guess...heh i did that a while ago
in 4 weeks i won't have any coveradge
but i'm definatly gonna try talking to my friends....meh
i just can shut up about it anymore
Over the years I have learnt that most people don't freak when you tell them, they are very sympathetic.
I don't shout it from the rooftops, but I do tell those I feel that I can trust.
If your friends do freak, then maybe they are not too good friends anyway?
i copied and pasted some of this thread and printed it....gave it to them to read while i blasted the funniest things i could find on youtube =p
they know i'm weird.....so i think it made sence to them. The way i went about 'talking' to them.
hey....it's a start.