I have never had my wife do that but she can be flirtatious with other men. How odd that he is doing that.

So are you seeing him? Do you really love him enough to ride through the constant BP rollercoaster? What makes you desire to be with him? I am not trying to be nosy but it just seems that he is really unprepared and unwilling to get help or even continue a romantic laison with you.

I have to laugh at this one. OMG my X his wild mind at times.

One day he told me he mets this awesome chick with a bangin' body named Ginger.
I called the peps he always went out with to make sure it was true. And guess what this Ginger chick was some wild chick that was only around in his world.

There wasn't a chick named Ginger! He just made her up to try to make me jealous.

I duno how many times I have tried to tell him I am don't care who or what he dates. As long as they don't do any thing to harm our son. Then I will have an issue..

AS well his ole tricks. He used to use this female "Friend" back in the day to get back at me. She wanted him, caused all sorta of problem btw us. (he cheated on me with her) I should have let her have him, thats another story with in its self.. But anyways he'd added her to his myspace page. I said something about him adding her. He "goes well I only added her cos of you n' tracy.." Tracy is an ole old friend of mine from many many years ago.. He never liked tracy and i talking cos he was always scared tracy would come steal me away from him.


So yeah once again he is trying to use this flea to hurt me. He cant hurt me anymore cos i wont let him..

But, why do they have to act so dang childish and play those stupid games?? He's 32 and acts like he is still in high schoool..

Hurtpoet, I have found that when my wife says something that she hopes gets a rise out of me and I respond the opposite way is when she flips herself. The next time your X tells you about some chic then really pretend to be happy for him. Tell him how wonderful that is and that you hope that they will be happy together and how he deserves her. Watch him freak out as you turn the tables on him.

It's so hard to know what's even going on right now, but I would have to say no, I'm not seeing him. We broke up in January, and rode the usual "on and off" coaster until about May, when I decided that I'd had enough. When he e-mailed or tried to contact me after that, I ignored him. I was traveling overseas during the summer with some great people, so that really helped me stay strong. At this point, I wasn't aware of the BP.

In September, he messaged me again, and I told him off. I was so frustrated with him; it was bad enough that I had to be within a few miles of him at school, I didn't want him bothering me. Then one day I saw him, and said hi. We went out for coffee, because at that point, I was interested in someone else and had moved on, so I thought there was no harm to be done.

He was doing great, seeing a therapist, and when I look back on it now, probably just came out of a deep depression. I really started to remember why I had loved him so much all those years. We started hanging out and sleeping together, although I would never go so far as to let him think we were "back together". He would say he loved me and was sorry, and I would just smile; I never said it back.

In the middle of October, about a month after all of this started, he went manic for a few days (although I didn't really realize it was 'mania', just really weird behavior). Then, literally on a dime without warning, he came over one night and said he met this girl, and it was like looking into the face of a stranger. I was so hurt and frustrated, but I know that that is what "he" wanted, to push me away.

Over the next few days I tried to reach out to him, even going to his apartment because he wouldn't answer my calls or e-mails. He told me to leave or he would call the cops, and after almost 2 years of dealing with this treatment, I snapped. I am ashamed to say that I slapped him right in the face, and told him to never contact me again.

During the following few weeks, I contacted a bipolar support group in my area, and did alot of research, and realized that alot of what had happened was not "his" fault. It still made me angry though,because I felt like I was always making excuses for him. It may sound out of the ordinary, but I have come to peace with his situation really fast. The more I have learned about bipolar, and the further back in our relationship I go, things make so much sense. I don't feel naive or crazy anymore, which is awesome.

At this point, I don't even care about being with him romantically, I just want him to get help. He is a great person, and still the best friend I've ever had, and it sucks to see him spiral down like this.

You are truly a sweet lady for wanting to help him so much. Just be careful and realize that ultimately it has to come from him.

Cody, that's exactly what I did this time. I told him I wanted to be happy, and that I hoped we could still be friends. He went nuts and flipped out, completely turning it around on me. I suppose that's just the nature of the 'beast'.

Hablur, I have finally realized that there is nothing more I can do for him except be here when he is finally ready to accept help. Until then, I will not allow his disease to continue to negatively affect my life.

~Vil~

that is all we can do as X's. Is just keep our hand out waiting for them to need us.

As well stated "we" can not let them effect our lives in a negative manor.

You wouldnt believe the crap my X did after we parted to try to up set me.

Like bleach his hair. He kept telling peps he couldnt wait for me see his hair cos' it was gonna up set me. When i seen his hair, i was laughing so hard on the inside. I didnt say crap about his hair not a word. I couldnt count the times he took his hat off his head in front of me. Just waitin for me to say something.


Once I myself started doing research. I was blown aways.. Every thing new I learned I kept saying in my head "Thats so J."


"Faults" we all have to stand up sometimes and take the fall for our "faults"

You can't baby him or other's due to their disorders and challenges.

Peace
Love
Poet

Well i guess i have to say my ex actually meets other girls. Though it's through the internet, and this time i believe he considers he's in a relationship with a woman in Sweden! He did this the same time last year with someone more local. He also makes it all very public through myspace. It's like the minute he breaks up with me, he trys to find someone else! It's been so painful...though i have learned more this time around, and really believe he is ill.

I can relate so much to your story..down to him thretening to call the cops on me last year...and i just wanted to talk!!

The last few months have been really rough, but learning all i have about bp, it's made a huge difference for me. I know i have to move on, but i still have the hope that he will someday get help.

I assure you, these girls actually exist, but they are in no way romantically involved with him. He once told me that a girl, lets call her Amy, had told him she was falling in love with him. Through a weird coincidence, I became friends with Amy about 4 months later. When I realized who she was, I mentioned the things my ex had said; she was completely shocked, and said that she hadn't even talked to him in months. Strange how these things happen.

What i believe my ex does is some how convinces these women he's the one for them. I'm not kidding. Ha..i should know, he did it with me! I think he's addicted to falling in love, but then has no idea how to cope with a real relationship. He tried with me, he really did. He may want to try again. His pattern is to come back to me in the spring.

Anyway...all i know is he will say he loves someone very quickly. Also he is a master with language (he's a poet), and can be very romantic. I can only imagine what he is saying and writing to his latest victim.

Wow.. I can so relate to the above post its not even funny!

My X and our friend Amy (ironic you used that name) He had told people from back home (we just moved to this town a yr and half ago) that Amy was his new g/f and he wanted to bring her down for a weekend so everyone could met her and see how much better than me she is! har har the joke was on him though.. Cos word got back to me and I asked her about their relationship. Just to make sure he wasn't joking me.

Funny how if it wasn't true he knew where it came from when he jumped my back over it. That the person who told me didnt have clue what they was talking about.

I knew then he did say it to that person. Cos' he knew the source of the rummor.

Stupid stupid stupid..

I've read in the bp community that people with bp can fall in love quickly & easily.

When my bf was last unwell I caught him out sending dodgy text messages to a couple of women. I confronted him & he was gutted with himself, now he's pretty humiliated by it, it was totally out of character. I know the women involved & they'd done nothing to encourage him & at one stage one of them had told him she wasn't interested.
I've had a lot of advice from people with bp & supporters on here & looking back I think it was his way of trying to deal with the hypersexuality part of it without cheating.Still stinks though, we had no issues with others before this so I'm still pretty bitter.

He accused me of playing games when he was the one doing that. The hardest part is he doesn't remember a lot of the things he said & did when he was really manic so it makes it hard to talk about. We're getting there.

I get that a lot too..

"If you wanna play games we can play games! But, you wont like the moves I make!"

sigh how do we deal with such tantics?

I used to deal with them by crying and whining and repeatedly asking "why are you doing this to me?" That didn't work, in case anyone was wondering. I can tell you one thing though, those tactics won't work on me again! I know these people are made up; this time I told him I was happy for him, and that I wasn't going to stop him from walking out the door. It didn't stop him from leaving, but at least I don't have to deal with the depression. The sad thing is, I would be more than supportive during his depressions if he would just admit there was a problem and get help. Until then, I have nothing more to day to him.

its hard for people to see and admit they have problems!!

Its ezier to see outside looking in then inside looking out!