Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.
Is this just how my BF is or is it the bipolar? it seems like he puts everyone else before me, even the kids at his work. EX: i asked him to burn a movie for me (he's on a movie burning kick right now) and he does and then before i can watch it he says i'm going to take it to work and show the kids.
and like he defends everyone else whenever i try to vent about things. he's always making excuses for the other people. ex: his ex wife made a nasty comment to me about my 12 yr old daughter's weight/size yesterday when she picked up his son yesterday (thank God my daughter was not home to hear it). when i mentioned it to him he said nothing. absolutley nothing. then last night i brought it up and how i was upset about him saying nothing about it and he says "that's just how she is. what do you want me to do?"
maybe it's a male thing. maybe it's a BP thing. maybe it's a combination of both. it caused a bad downward spiral for us last night. i'm always feeling like things will never change and this is how my life will be forever with him. sometimes it's good but other times it's really really not.
taking a mental health day from work today (that's what i'm calling it but my boss would call it calling in sick since we don't get mental health days at the big Lizard)
sorry all, that was more of a journal entry, huh?
and like he defends everyone else whenever i try to vent about things. he's always making excuses for the other people. ex: his ex wife made a nasty comment to me about my 12 yr old daughter's weight/size yesterday when she picked up his son yesterday (thank God my daughter was not home to hear it). when i mentioned it to him he said nothing. absolutley nothing. then last night i brought it up and how i was upset about him saying nothing about it and he says "that's just how she is. what do you want me to do?"
maybe it's a male thing. maybe it's a BP thing. maybe it's a combination of both. it caused a bad downward spiral for us last night. i'm always feeling like things will never change and this is how my life will be forever with him. sometimes it's good but other times it's really really not.
taking a mental health day from work today (that's what i'm calling it but my boss would call it calling in sick since we don't get mental health days at the big Lizard)
sorry all, that was more of a journal entry, huh?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
She was a little better at the weekend, showed interest in the children at least.
When she is manic, she hates me with a vengeance and still puts herself first.
So the stable is better, cos at least she is nice.
My X was highly like that too.. His WANTS came before anyone's NEED's no matter how big or small..
His WANTS came before BILLS..
yadda yadda..
People dont change unless they want to change!
As far his X goes.. Sometimes it best not to stir up more drama. Sounds like she is wanting to stir things up, let it go! Cos to say anything back to her might cause a bigger mess.
YES the X thing i didn't say anything to her and didn't want him to but i did want some sympathy! he is also a man so sympathy isn't always something he is caable of! LOL oh well. back to day by day. i kind of slipped off of that.
I could not handle another 9 years with him.