And in fact, causing more grief for BP Dx'd loved one.

Our daughter had depression issues on and off throughout her teenage years. In fact, my wife and I were wondering when she would be diagnosed with BP, which we thought likely. But as of yet she has not developed BPD, although we can see that day occurring in the future.

However, now that my wife has been Dx BP, the daughter is again depressed, and will not leave my wife alone - she needs to pour out her depression on mom, who does not need this kind of interaction right now. But talking to the daughter-unit does no good, because it doesn't seem to sink in that her mom doesn't need the additional stress right now - and when it does sink in, the daughter then starts going on about how it is her fault that mom is sick...

Our daughter is married, has her own house and family, but has started clinging to my wife especially like glue, lamenting all the ills in her own life. And that is driving me bonkers, so I dare not imagine how my wife feels about it - although I know it is not good.

Anyone else experience this? Anyone have any ideas on handling this situation? (without losing it themselves?)