I have a friend who is really struggling with the break up of her marriage. Her husband is b/p. But she is blaming it for everything and doesn't hold him responsible for any of it. She says she does but she doesn't. I totally understand she just needs something to blame. Aslong as she can keep herself convinced that it's all his illlness she can still have a small amount of hope. You know that someday he'll get treatment any everything will be back like it was. I'm almost possitive that if they came out with an out& out cure tomorrow it wouldn't change things for her. I've been honest with her about it as much as possible but I do feel guilty about at times she is such a sweet person I really like her alot and wouldn't want to hurt her for anything and I know it probably does. I just don't feel like I would be helping her by encouraging her to coninue down this path. I feel it's going to cause her more harm. I'm really worried about her. I need some advice should I continue to try to be honest with her or should I back off and give her some time to except things for her self? And if I should back off how do I continue to support her without feeding her belief that she has to cure him in order to fix things? Please anyone who could give me any advice I would be eturnally greatful. Thank you.
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