My mother has been calling me everyday and leaving messages. I haven't spoken to her in over 3 years and now she wants to spend a day talking. She has said she is on a calling campiagn to get me to reurn her calls. My brother put her up to it confusing what I said about our father with my mother. He told her he thought I felt whe was criticizing me and that she needed to make more of an effort to rebuild the relationship. The criticizing, judgements, and accusations are a huge pain in the ass symptom of her illness along with irrational beliefs, but I am slowly coming to terms with that. Although it's not the main reason I don't speak to her. It more has to do with the fact that she doesn't admit she ahs a problem and/or try to get treatment. I want to work on my own life and can't handle her drama all the time. It's not like I can turn to her for real life advice. I'm upset that my brother gave her my number and has meddled in my life. I wish I could have healthy boundaries with her, but I feel thats impossible. I'm trying to start therapy to reevaluate my relationship with my parents and draw some more conclusions. I'm waiting on some therapists to call me back, but this is going to be a process. I have to find a therapist that knows how to handle seperation and boundaries with mentally ill parents. I feel like now I'm in a head on collision with my mother right now.
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