I am looking for some input and will try to consolidate this as much as I can. We are expecting in October and money seems to be a big trigger for my husband (not parting with it-not having enough). A few months ago I started to put money away in savings and my husband decided from the get go this would never work and this was not something we could do. True or not, I wanted and needed to try. The money still belonged to us and could be put back at any time. Fast forward, it doesn't seem to be working, there is not enough left. We realized this yesterday morning at about 10 am. My husband decided he needed to look for another job and I brought up the concern of too much change (new job, baby). He stated that cannot be a consideration, that this needed to be done. I didn't disagree but brought up that we needed to be mindful of what could occur. He felt I didn't believe in him and had no faith. NOT what I was saying. Throughout the day, I felt he was twisting everything I was saying. I make a decent salary and he is worth so much more, something he has always known. He said I didn't care about his happiness, all I cared about was money. Not true. Nothing is good enough for "me" he said. - it seemed to be all about me and my disapproval. He tore apart my job and felt I needed a change too (I don't feel that way nor do I think it would be wise to make any changes right now based on upcoming events, besides salary is good). He completely panicked and I feel used me as a scapegoat. I tried to tell him he was a "not him right now" and he said "you're right I'm psychotic, unstable" or whatever words he used. No matter what I said, or didn't say, it was twisted and misconstrued and made to be an insult on him. I asked why he was taking this out on me and he said he wasn't and there were times that I thought I was out of my mind thinking - maybe he's right, maybe this is me. It was basically dooms day, no way out, all negativity, all snowballed into a bad career choice and now what is he going to do, he wasted 6 years of his life - and I'm only thinking of the immediate problem, which is re-evaluating our plans and coming up with something to get us through at the very least - the next two weeks. I'm still very new at this and don't know if this is related to BP or what. Any thoughts?
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