Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.
My mom is diagnosed with PTSD but I have known since I was a teen that she is bi-polar. She has had episodes since I was a young teen and over the years has got worse and worse. I used to be her only supporter but then she would push me away as hard as she could so when I became an adult I pretty much ran away. I couldn't handle being a mother to my mother anymore. I just had my boyfriend and father of my two kids thrown in jail 3 weeks ago for D.V. and moved back in with my mom. She put herself in a situation and now that is all she breathes. She is zoned constantly. I can't talk to her or she flips on me. She has stopped going to school. I have no car and I am here with my two kids and have no way to leave the house. She is so obsessed with the situation right now, it's worse than in the past. (this is only one example of many, some worse) A long time ago she saw a small vein under her eye. I could not see it. For months she lay on the couch and cried that she looked horrible. She would ask my friends when they came over even. When I and them would tell her you couldn't see it and she looked beautiful still she would yell that we were liars. She finally found a doctor that said he would do surgery and correct it. When he did she said it was worse and tried to get him for malpractice. This situation she's in now is even worse. I don't even want to get into it. I feel so depressed because she is sick and I don't know what to do or how to deal with it. If I try to talk to her about anything she starts screaming that I'm selfish and I'm a liar. Neither is true but she tells me whatever she knows may hurt me when she is flipping out. No one understands what I'm going through because no one see's what I go through and she can change her attitude to the situation and the people. I'm scared because I'm not so sure I can deal with this again and I have no where else to go. I just wish I knew a way to deal with her and keep her happy. When she is in a good mood it's really really good and when she's in a bad mood it's really really bad! Any suggestions?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
If not, perhaps the local department of social services could help you to find some housing/child care, etc. and help you to get established on your own.
It might be hard, but staying in the unhealthy atmosphere at your mothers would be worse for you, and your kids too.
I would try to apply for whatever social services are available, incl. a shelter for women and families dealing with domestic violence. They may have programs to help.
i do agree with kristines advise. Look into whatever government help you can get. And if you can see a counselor that's always good too. Since she's concerned about the recent problems with your husband, maybe she would even give you a ride? hang in there, things will change!