Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.
I'm going to see my boyfriend tonight, I think he's still in a manic mood, not sure though as i haven't seen him since sunday.
Last week he was fine towards me, even said he loves me. Then goes manic and literally dissappears over the weekend. Now he's so distant again.
Do i act like everything's fine? Be happy around him? Or tell him how i really feel about his behaviour towards me? I'm so confused, i love him with all my heart but i feel so hurt and miss him so much. I believe he's stopped taking his meds aswell. How do you talk to someone to get them to see sense?
I so want to save our relationship but can't do it on my own. Is there any way of talking to someone whos in a manic state?
Any advice welcome
thank you x x x
Last week he was fine towards me, even said he loves me. Then goes manic and literally dissappears over the weekend. Now he's so distant again.
Do i act like everything's fine? Be happy around him? Or tell him how i really feel about his behaviour towards me? I'm so confused, i love him with all my heart but i feel so hurt and miss him so much. I believe he's stopped taking his meds aswell. How do you talk to someone to get them to see sense?
I so want to save our relationship but can't do it on my own. Is there any way of talking to someone whos in a manic state?
Any advice welcome
thank you x x x
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Not a good idea to tell him he is manic either, in my experience it is just opening yourself up for abuse.
Best course of action if you want to see him and he is manic is agree with everything he says, smile and nod and go with his flow.
Talking to someone who is manic is pointless unless you are a talking to them about something they want to talk about.
I think i'll just be chatty and cheerful and see how that goes. I don't think he thinks there is anything wrong, which there is....i'm not very happy with the situation. I'll see how he is later....thank you for the reply:) x x
My beloved X of nine years is bp. I just thought all those years he was deeply depressed.
I cheated on him and ended it with him.
Delt with weeks worth of suicied threats. He spent a week in the ward. to find out he's bp.
Every time i turn around i am dealing with a dif person.
He's all lovely thinking we are gonna get back together. (if we get a long or spend a few min together he thinks that way)
once he realizes its not going that way, he flips out on me, calls me names talks of killing him self again.
blah blah.. blah.
a lot of times you have to put up your emotional guards and not let there impluse words and actions hurt you.
Before my bf's last hospital stay I couldn't get through to him when he was manic & I was absolutely shit scared of him, it would take one tiny thing to send him into a rage. Fortunately he listened when I begged him to get into hospital, he even drove us there.
He raised his voice twice & I was terrified his hand would be next. I feel mean saying that now, he would never hurt me when he's well.He was a totally different person.
If he's not taking the meds & isn't going to get help it might be best to wait it out until he's not so manic. It'll be quite scary for him too.
For most of the 18 years my ex had BP, the only thing that penetrated the paranoia he experienced was my love for him and his for me. Tragically, in his last episode, his paranoia encompassed me as well. Our relationship was no longer enough to hold him through his episodes.
Each person experiences BP disorder in their own way. Whether your relationship can survive depends on how extensive the illness gets, how it manifests itself, and how much support you have for yourself outside the relationship.
I would take this as a blessing in a way. You can move on in your life now. I know you don't want to and you still feel you love him but in all honesty you are not married and dont have children with him so I would suggest honestly ending it.
So far you have seen how difficult this can be. Do you really understand that being with a bi-polar person for the rest of your life is an incredably difficult thing to do? Go find happiness.
I do not mean to be cruel but this is a blessing. I do feel for your grief though and sympathize. I really am sorry. But I can't also feel joy that you have a chance to get away from this.