
Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.

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I know I do!!!! I just feel alone and unwanted right now. It's not like I don't go out of my way to be "ready".(I always f*ckin' ready anymore!!) And it doesn't matter how many fun toys and stuff I buy he's not intrested PERIOD!!! It's so frustranting sitting on the bed ____ (you fill in the blank) and not even getting looked at!!!! I could throw my-self at him ____ and he would push me off!! uggggggggh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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On the lighter side he could, be manic and going out and cheating on you!
I always tend to pick the lesser of the two evils.
Sorry, these posts are too hot for me. I am going to take a cold shower. Oh, there is my unhappy partner yelling at me, I don't need the cold shower now.
Sorry Vampelf, the physical relationship being absent is hard and I know it makes me just that 24/7. I do want to be Dr Ruth here who recommends Tonka toys replacement therapy, but you might want to see if he suffers performance anxiety. I suffer from the Lack of Performance Anxiety and that can be equally as bad. Trust me, married men and boyfriends can suffer from that and can happen any time. They fear that they might not be able to satisfy you. This is more common than you think. Are you the wild type and he is not in bed? See if there is a way he likes and do that for a while (hopefully not missionary boring style) and then slowly add some stuff to it. Make sure that you never criticize anything he does in the bed. Don't say, "That was OK, but I prefer Tarzan." Guys have an ego and you do not want to destroy that but build it up even when you know it's a bunch of crap. Don't get carried away either with, "You stallion!!!!!!!!! Oh, those were the best 2 minutes ever you stud muffin." We might be guys but we know bs sometimes when we hear it.
Hurtpoet could be right that the meds could be affecting him. You need to go back in the relationship and determine when all this has started and that might give you a clue. Did he have several bad experiences with you and so on where he failed to perform? Was that when he started his meds? Is there a lot of tension in the relationship too? I made a post yesterday where I said how my wife 10 minutes after bashing my head in will tell me that she is horny and my head is still spinning from the whipping that I just received.
Hurtpoet also said about another fling on the side as a possibility. That is a chance too. Just do what my wife does to me every three months and get within 6 inches of his face and ask him if there is someone else. I don't know, my wife thinks it is the key to knowing who is cheating. I doubt that he is because other clues are usually present.
If he is still affectionate to you then my guess is a performance type of anxiety. You usually do not have one without the other. He just might be feeling guilty about something.
Sorry if I didn't help.
Too bad, I really used to enjoy it! But after this many years, I can live without it.
What I have started doing is creating date nights where we can refocus on us as a couple and try and rekindle the spark. Believe it or not my Therapist pointed out that this was an excellent idea because it shows that I really do love her and she IS my spouse not just someone I take care of. Physically it is also very good for the body.
We had our first date night last night and it went surprisingly well. We both enjoyed and it was nice actually being a couple again for a little while.
I'm realllly glad I found this place it makes me feel like I'm not totally alone in this mess that is bp!!
HurtPoet-No I don't think it's the meds.
Cody1-not sure about the anxiety though I am the "wild one" an he's "missionary boring style" so that sucks. Also my ex-husband cheated on me so I know the signs there. O'well I guess I'm sh*t outta luck for now :(
I do appreciate people sharing! I don't smoke but I feel like having one.
snarf snart..
I've been A sexual for 6m. But choice people by choice.. I do miss the cuddling and etc.. But, over all I am going to go out and find a replacement.
Or seek someone to fulfill my emotional needs..
snarf snarf..
i am joking people dont flip out on me.. umm kk
Thanks a lot Hurtpoet!!