Do you think your bf will let you go to his next docs appointment with him?
That doctor should be encouraging him to have his family & loved ones be part of his treatment, it can help a lot.

If you can go, let the doctor know you've become quite educated on bp & meds & discuss your concerns.

Vampelf,

First off.. you cant trust a thing you bf says from what the doctor says unless you hear it yourself. It is very common that someone with BP to mis-interpret what is said and take it out of context. You need to insist that you go to an appointment.

If your BF cant do that then I don't know what to suggest. I go to ALL of my wife's. If I didn't she would be in a real bad way because she just doesn't get all of what the Pdoc says.

To be honest I seroiusly doubt the Pdoc knows he is taking that much pain meds as they have a VERY dangerous effect on BP on the depressive side.

I hope this has helped some.

I agree with Halbur, he is hearing what he wants to hear from the p/doc.
My mum's careworker takes her for her p/doc appointments, so she can ensure all info is taken on board.
It's weird, my mum tells me she has visited p/doc and tells me all these things that she has heard, then careworker rings me and tells me something completely different.

Wow I never thought of it like that before(misinterpretation of doc's instructions)
and I HAVE insisted on going with him to his doc appt.'s but he refuses. At first he told me his doc didn't want me there. Later he admitted it was him who didn't want me there. I wish I could talk to the doctor on my own but I'm afraid that will set him off.

You can call the Pdoc and tell him all you like which is actually a good thing because the Pdoc really needs to hear it. It will actually help your BF out tremendously. The problem is because of confidentiality don't expect the doc to reciprocate. Your BF will likely be angry if he finds out but the doc will likely not reveal that you called him.

I would strongly advise calling him and letting him know your concerns. It will definately help with your BF's treatment as the Pdoc will have a more complete story.

Sounds like he needs to find a new doctor. I've been with my bp boyfriend for about 2 years and I have met his doctor and his doctor encourages him to be with family and to stay with me as long as I make him happy and we have a healthy relationship. I would strongly encourage you to have him look for a new doctor. I think that convincing someone with bp to stop talking to family and loved ones is just wrong.

I had the same problem with my best friend. I would ask her what her psychiatrist said, and she would tell me things I knew couldn't be right. She told me that her pdoc had told her, I was trying to control her and that she should not be my friend. She told me she was going to keep my in here life anyway, so I had better be grateful. She was taking Lamictal, klonopin, and tons of pain meds. MS contin, flexaril, fentora, and the fentanyl patch. She was high as hell and often unresponsive. My friend died last July at 38 yrs old. Her death cert read, chronic narcotic abuse, and malnutrition. Her daughter's and I got her medical records. They said that her pdoc never told her anything like what she was telling us. He made mention in his records that she was a patient with" strong functional overlay" In other words, a patient that lied to him, and could not be trusted to help herself in her own treatment. Apparently this is very common in bi-polar and borderline personality patients. In my friend's case it was her pain doc that gave her most of her meds. He didn't even know she was bi-polar and had borderline personality disorder. It sounds to me like you should call or write to this doc. he can't tell you about your boyfriend, but you can tell him about what you know. That's what I did. It's too late for my friend, but do what you can. That's all you can do. I'm so sorry.