
Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.

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Does anyone here get blamed for all that goes wrong with your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend etc?
Does anyone here feel that they are always defending themselves and what they say or do?
Do you have to give reasons for going certain places and are called on your cell phone if you take a little longer than your spouse/friend expected you to be gone?
Are you called the control freak in all of this? I am told that I cannot watch a certain channel on TV because she doesn't care to watch that even though she is in another room doing her own thing. Harassed when hopping on the computer and how long you are on it and then they hop on it and use it three times longer than you but always has an excuse why?
Ever accused of the exact same thing that they were doing? This happens to me many times and I am always told that even though she had done the same thing that my doing it was much worse and that she was justified in doing so?? That one I will go into later because my friends and family rolled their eyes when she talked about that.
I would get accused of deliberately hiding something of hers that she is trying to find not believing that she misplaced it and I would literally get insulted until she found it.
I am asked all the time if I am seeing other woman even though I never go anywhere. I have to look into her eyes and say, "I have not cheated at all with any woman anywhere" and I better not crack a grin which somehow now becomes difficult not to do. She likes when my son goes with me to places because he is very honest boy.
I even get blamed for looking at a woman on TV when I was watching the channel to begin with. She has even covered my eyes during a bra commercial. I get blamed for saying things that I never said. I get blamed for thinking things that I never was thinking to begin with. I am even told to shut up when I didn't even say anything. I get insulted when I just get through installing a brand new sink that I do not do anything to help around the house. I spent my whole weekend installing a sink and a new garage door opener (the full thing) but I am good for nothing a half hour after I am done because she is mad that I am not ready for another project.
I am even blamed for the problems that my wife is experiencing and even her family blames me. My wife was hospitalized for certain thoughts by someone that works at the hospital and it ended up being my fault according to her and her family because I should have tried stopping them and I should have never taken her to the hospital to begin with.
Is this a common problem with everyone or is this not typical with you? Just curious. I would like to hear from everyone.
Does anyone here feel that they are always defending themselves and what they say or do?
Do you have to give reasons for going certain places and are called on your cell phone if you take a little longer than your spouse/friend expected you to be gone?
Are you called the control freak in all of this? I am told that I cannot watch a certain channel on TV because she doesn't care to watch that even though she is in another room doing her own thing. Harassed when hopping on the computer and how long you are on it and then they hop on it and use it three times longer than you but always has an excuse why?
Ever accused of the exact same thing that they were doing? This happens to me many times and I am always told that even though she had done the same thing that my doing it was much worse and that she was justified in doing so?? That one I will go into later because my friends and family rolled their eyes when she talked about that.
I would get accused of deliberately hiding something of hers that she is trying to find not believing that she misplaced it and I would literally get insulted until she found it.
I am asked all the time if I am seeing other woman even though I never go anywhere. I have to look into her eyes and say, "I have not cheated at all with any woman anywhere" and I better not crack a grin which somehow now becomes difficult not to do. She likes when my son goes with me to places because he is very honest boy.
I even get blamed for looking at a woman on TV when I was watching the channel to begin with. She has even covered my eyes during a bra commercial. I get blamed for saying things that I never said. I get blamed for thinking things that I never was thinking to begin with. I am even told to shut up when I didn't even say anything. I get insulted when I just get through installing a brand new sink that I do not do anything to help around the house. I spent my whole weekend installing a sink and a new garage door opener (the full thing) but I am good for nothing a half hour after I am done because she is mad that I am not ready for another project.
I am even blamed for the problems that my wife is experiencing and even her family blames me. My wife was hospitalized for certain thoughts by someone that works at the hospital and it ended up being my fault according to her and her family because I should have tried stopping them and I should have never taken her to the hospital to begin with.
Is this a common problem with everyone or is this not typical with you? Just curious. I would like to hear from everyone.
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http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/bipolar/related/support_9.asp
http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder/guide/helping-loved-one-with-bipolar?print=true
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