My husband was accused of touching his cousin inappropriately. This is what I know was true: in the middle of the night, my husband woke up and touched his cousin on the back. His cousin took this for something sexual, and thus, all hell broke loose. This happened in October, but the cousin didn't say anything until December. My husband's cousin has a habit of exaggerating and lying to get people into trouble, so I'm not sure if the two month wait was time to get a good story going or not. Anyway, the police tried to contact my husband to get his statement. Every time he called them back, they never got in touch with him. A WHOLE YEAR went by before the police contacted him via snail mail. They said they wanted to speak with him regarding the case, and he went in. The trusting man my husband is simply thought by telling his side of the story, things would be fine. He didn't bother to consult with a lawyer first. Whatever my husband said in that interview was the basis for the warrant that was served for his arrest. Only, he wasn't arrested that November when he gave his statement. He was arrested six months later in May. None of this made any sense to us. As far as we knew, my husband's aunt and uncle did not want to press any charges. They wanted to forgive and forget and let everyone get on with their lives. But there he was, in jail. I borrowed money to be able to bail him out of jail. So we spent the next month in and out of court and with his public defender. I thank God that my husband had the PD he did. She fought like hell for him every step of the way. From what I hear, this is definitely not the norm. God's hand was on the situation the entire time. In California, lewd and lascivious acts with a minor carries a maximum eight year sentence. That was what the DA wanted to give my husband. Eight years in state prison. The PD told my husband that if it went to trial, it was the cousin's word against his, and the cousin's would win out because no one really believes someone didn't "molest" someone, even if they didn't. He took an open plea to the court, which meant the judge decided his fate. Again, the DA recommended the 8 year sentence in state prison. His psychologist recommended no jail time but extensive therapy. The probation officer recommended 180 days in county jail and five years probation. That is what the judge decided. My husband was so fortunate to have such a light sentence. We're almost at the half way point of his sentence, but now my worry is for when he's on the outside. He has to register for life as a sex offender, he cannot be the teacher he always dreamed of being, he cannot be around our youngest cousins until he's off probation. Laws regarding sex offenders are so unfair, and we plan to work very hard to fight them once my husband is off paper.
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