Hi Barbara,

How long will he be there? I am sorry. I don't have any information on FL prisons. My guy is doing fine in his prison though...it isn't as bad as he thought it would be. There is a site that you can access, but I've forgotten what it is called. Maybe prisontalk? If that is correct, it has a lot of information on it.

Merk

Barbara,
Prisontalk.com is a wonderful resource. I visited frequently while my husband was in. I don't know anything about FL, but my husband said prison was easier than jail. For me even visits in prison were better than in jail. You just have to get used to the routine, and make sure you stick to the visitor dress code. (don't wear underwires).

I spent four months in Jail, it was like be in nursery school. Walk in the red lins, no talking, COs yelling in your face like you were in boot camp. I had never been in trouble at any point in my life, so for me going to Jail has had a major impact on my life. I dont know about prison, I did hear from inmates who were in prison that it is so much easier then jail. All I know Is 117 days for me in jail felt like a lifetime. I relive it everyday. Im not sure I will ever get over it. or what I am going through since Ive been out. Its been 15 months since I served my sentence, or so I thought. I have realized now that Iam serving a life sentence because of two words, that I feel I should have never recieved. I hope it goes well for your son, and he can do his time in peace and come home to his family. I know when I got out I thought life was going to be so different, I had many dreams. Now the only dream I have is for life to end. I truely hope and pray it goes better for all of you, then it has for me. My prayers are with all of you.

Barb, Stay strong for your loved one. Write as much as possible. My husband lives for mail call. The letters everyone writes brings him the love and closeness of family. My prayers are with you.

Thank you, everyone, for your kind words..........Love, Barbara

Barbara,
Research shows that those family members who stay in touch, visit, write, keep up relationships with their beloved relatives - it helps to lower the rate of recidivism. We must advocate for our loved ones as a unit. Society does what they do in the name of the law, but that doesn't make them right! Our voices must unify and get louder. My husband too lives for mail call, our 2 weekly phone calls of 15 minutes, and my 30 minute visit on Sunday. I'd look up the prisons on email do research as to the levels of security. Is it a community? Does he receive counseling? Has he ever been evaluated or did they just take the gospel word of someone? Remember we're a step ahead of society - we love them despite what they did. I remember Jesus on the cross saying, "Father forgive them, for they know not what they do." He said that for all of us and all the things we have done. There is only one God and these people in law enforcement are NOT gods! Love and support to you and you loved one! Love, Michelle

I am new here. Everyone seems so kind. My son is 19 and will be transferred to SFRC from county very soon. My life has been turned upside down. When he was charged with this offense(SO) I was in denial. I have had to come to terms with it, but, I am so distraught and depressed all the time. I am so scared and heartbroken for him .He has a 40 year sentence.FL prisons have such a bad reputation, we are both terrified!

HopeforAus,

If your son is only 19, has a 40 year sentence, and is a sex offender, then he may very well have problems in the Florida prison system.

Inmates detest sex offenders simply b/c many of them were abused as children themselves. The fact that he has a 40 year sentence makes him ineligible for a lower security prison where it is much safer; instead, he will probably be placed at a medium security prison with hardened convicts serving long sentences. And being 19 years old does not help, as younger inmates are at a disadvantage.

But his situation is not impossible as guys do survive a higher security prison with sex charges. I did and I am not a Mike Tyson type individual.

So, your son needs some help and guidance to get on the right path for his prison sentence.

A while back, I wrote a long, 20+ commentary about survival for sex offenders in prison. I did not write about what I heard or someone told me, as I that was unnecessary. I wrote the commentary b/c I was there in the flesh in prison----both a medium and minimum----for almost a decade on bogus charges. Everything I wrote in that commentary was from first-hand experience

I want you to read my commentary and then message me with any questions you might have.

The commentary is on my Dropbox account and here is the link so you can access it---

https://tinyurl.com/yd43teko

We need to get your son into Florida’s Protective Management program, so he can serve his sentence without fear of being harmed. PM is a program in the Florida prison system that allows inmates who would be vulnerable in the general population of a prison---like your son--- to be able to serve his time. This usually includes snitches, sex offenders, and gang dropouts. These groups often have a difficult time integrating into the general population of a medium security prison.

A couple of years ago I helped a Florida mother whose son was an ex-correctional officer who went to prison. He was having all sorts of problems due to his former job in law enforcement. I helped her get him into the Protective Management program and he is doing fine now. I am sure there is a waiting list for the Protective Management program in Florida, but at some point we need to think about getting your son on the list.

After you read my commentary, I also have some other materials I have written over the years that will help.

Looking forward to visiting with you.

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To add to my post above: If any mothers, wives, GFs, or family members of sex offenders are in the Florida prison system and having a difficult time b/c of their charges, let me know and we will try to get him into Protective Management.

If anybody has a loved one having problems in prison b/c of a sex charge, let me know also. I will try to see what I can do to help.

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I am so sorry you going through this.I two am my son got 25 to life but in California if you want to talk I'm here