Since my two year nightmare began back in 8/8/08, I have been asked numerous questions about where my husband is. As my faith directed me in obedience to God, after I filed for divorce (under massive public/legal pressure to do so), I (after one year) retracted my decision officially and had the divorce stricken from the record. I wear my wedding band, but am cautious about conversations leading to my husband and what he does. Many times people are innocent in their small talk, but some are just nosey. I've told them 1) he works out of town 2) he works for the government 3) he's in the military...the list can go on. Being a very honest person has made this hard, but in my research on this God-awful nightmare, I have learned that you don't have to tell anyone anything - they'll just use it against you. I am at a new job and as I feel we are on the downhill slide of his sentence before coming home, I don't wish to engage in any type of talk about our personal life. People will prod and the sweat breaks out! Many times I'll just say that his profession is so and so and he is in business for himself...but then I get, what's the name of his business? I am scared people will know him. So my little white lies could just build up into a quandry where someone will know someone and find out something. It is so bad to walk in these shoes. I could say I am separated, but I choose not to say that. Can anyone offer me good advice on what to say without appearing secretive and halt further questions? I am also wary of having pictures of him in my office for fear that they'll look him up on the registry if they get nosey enough. I look forward to hearing from those of you walking in my shoes!
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