My husband is in medium security prison. I worry about him all the time. He tells me not to cause he's fine. He says he watches his back and doesn't say or do anything that would upset the guards or other inmates. He's made a few friends and they watch out for each other. He says he keeps his ears and eyes open and never borrows anything. The payback can be too much. Maybe someone else on this site has a loved one where your son is and can help keep an eye on him. Good luck and stay strong.

I agree - he should never borrow from anyone. Instead of borrow, go without. He should read his cellmate carefully and determine if he is upstanding to trust or not. If so, then they will watch after one another. If not, he may find someone else that he can pair up with. He should be alert and aware at all times. He should not rat on anyone. He should confide in himself and in letters to family only. From my loved one's experience, he has never witnessed or been subjected to any violence or abuse, but every prison varies. We are here for you!!!!

My son is also in Prison and he is in Medium Security. I agree with Justjen that if he just keeps to himself and doesn't borrow anything he should be okay. Of course I only know about the prison where my son is I am sure every one is alittle different. If you need a shoulder I am here. I know how you are feeling and finding Daily Strength has been wonderful for me to get through this nightmare. I hope you find some comfort here too. My prayers are with you and your son. Hugs, klp

Jo,

I have a son ( i sorta adopted) he is in jail and he calls me everynite. he says that you have to watch your back and know is your friend in there. People come and go in there and you do not borrow anything or lend anything. People will steal your food and if you tell then you get beat up. I am not trying to be blunt about it but I think there should be no sugar coating. They get fed bologne sandwiches everyday. Sometime there is no air or heat and it is fend for yourself. They do have a minister that comes around to the jails and teach them about the bible. That is the group he needs to hang out with, but not to close. take care if I can help with anything let me know. I know it is better to talk to someone about these things.

cindy

MY son is in maxium security, but protective custody. He still keeps to himself and he don't lend or borrow anything. Where he is the state takes 45% of all money you send for on their books. It is hard having a son in prison. I hope you live close to where he is going. So you can visit often. Mine is 2000 miles away. I get there one time a year. This site is very good and the members are great. Carol