
Families of Prisoners Support Group
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I have two options for Turkey Day but I just want to sit home alone and miss my sweetie and wait for the phone to ring and hear his voice on the other end. My sitting home alone is not a very popular idea but most of my family members do not know about this recent incarceration and will be expecting me to arrive with my new man who they have nevetr even met yet. I just don't feel like talking to them about this. What should I do, give in to my blues or buck up?? I hate life today.
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My new man isn't so new, and my family all knows where he is and understands, and that's why they push for me to spend time with them.. Very supportive. So I'll go and have a good time, and I'll talk to my man later in the day, or the next day.
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If I go with option 1, I drive 500 miles to LA (then back) and will be gone for several days, no chance to talk to my sweetie. My Mom, Sister and Brother In Law come with that package, Mom already knows the story and they won't judge, I would be comfortble there. It's just that he was going to come with me and I don't feel like I can face this without sinking into sadness.
Option 2 is a day trip with my Dad to his family that I'm not all that close to and don't know that well. My sweetie and I moved to CA and have been staying with my Dad for the last 2 months, so Dad of course knows what the story is. His family had invited us for T-Day before all this came up. It's awkward. No one will say anything hurtfull, it's just my emotions I can't deal with.
I can't stand thinking of him in that place and me trying to pretend I'm ok, cuz I'm not.
So choose whichever family you feel you would have the best time at.. And just try to have a few moments where you can enjoy yourself.. I know it's hard. When I laugh or smile about something just a few short seconds later I'm remembering where my man is, and I feel some sense of guilt for smiling or laughing.. But time has started to allow me more smile and laughs, and less guilt... I have actually heard my man laugh on the phone, so I know he's OK. I think that has helped me to allow myself a good feeling or two since he's been gone.