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Why is it that prison gaurds think they need to be on a power trip? My husband was in a prison in jackson michigan for most of his sentence. almost all the gaurds there that i saw was on this power trip.What really pissed me off was this little old lady came to visit her son, she was on a walker and had on a loose t shirt. She in no way looked sexy. She went thru to get patted down and came back out with tears in her eyes and said they wont let me in because i dont have a bra on. That is awful. Whats worse is they let 2 girls in right after her that was showing all kinds of cleavedge! Hes in muskegon now and all the gaurds i have met there are nice except for the one that was there last night. She was on a power trip.She asked me how much money i had and i said it should be 15.00 and she made me go back out and count it. So there was 16.00 so what! these people are no better than the prisoners. My husband still hasnt got the money order they stold from him. Thanks for letting me vent. Debbie
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it may be hard to do, but we gotta' keep praying for those guards as well. Lords knows they need it, just as much if not more than our loved ones.. (cuz they're such jerks) again, tho it's hard to do, i feel we gotta' be pleasant towards them, so they don't take it out on our loved ones..ya' know what i mean??
lastly, they that took the money will be punished--one way or the other..that is the truth!!
hang in there--
blessings
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I'm sure that is so upseting to you. It's like it's hard enough that you even have to go through this prison life with a loved one, but then having to deal with people without any compassion or a heart. regardless of what they are people and need pray too. Two wrongs don't make a right. So never let them bring you down to their level. Remain sweet and humble and let god take care of the rest. (((HUGS 2 u)))
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Prisons have dress codes for the safety of the visitors. I know it seems mean to not let her visit but that was for her safety. Remember those men have been behind bars without a woman for who knows how long. As for the low cut shirts diff prisons have diff views of how low cut is too low cut. Try to remain positive. If you make too much noise they could revoke your visits.
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Hi Debbie, my daughter will be going to prison soon. She is still being held at the county jail waiting for her sentencing hearing. I am so sorry for this shytty treatment fro the guards. Some ARE on power trips. My daughter has been in prison before. Some are really nice, but jeeeezzzzzzzzz, they seem far and few between. I hope things get better for you and your husband. I will say a prayer that they do!!!
EllaBlue
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It really is disgusting to be confronted by self-absorbed guards on absurb things such as the one you mentioned, maga. I, too, have encountered numerous insecure guards that do seem to get their "kicks" by embarrassing, criticizing, or belittling others. Says milestones about their own self-esteem doesn't it? I tend to handle their power trips with a smirk and oblige. But, then again, when they become downright disrespectful, then I stand up for myself. Losing my visits could be a possibility, but I will not allow someone to feel they have the power or right to walk over me. I treat with respect and I expect the same.
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I think the most infuriating thing about dealing with the guards is that I CAN'T say anything, becuase then no visits. I truly beleive they act the way they act because they damn well know no one is going to say anything.

Because my husband is in the county jail right now, I am just biding my time. Once he's transfered all hell is going to break loose on the county level...I am taking up the treatment of the visitors as my personal pet project. I know too many people too high up and who are in a position to do something about this not to make a stink. I suppose when he's out of prison I'll just take it up on the state level.

Phew...sorry about the rant, but this whole thing just makes me FURIOUS!!!!!!!!!!
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GO Mary!! I am right behind you!!!
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Seriously dmv...if I get rude service at a resteraunt I can complain to management, but in this case? I want to grab them by their shoulders forcibly and remind them that I AM A LAW ABIDING CITIZEN & HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING WRONG. What really bugs me though is how they treat some of the elderly visitors and those who do not speak English. It's California for goodness sake...you would think working knowledge of Spanish would be a requirement...and being physically fit (sorry, being snarky there!).
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Thats what im talking about. This lady was in her 70s. Who did they think she was going to turn on? You couldnt even tell she had any breasts.She was just a sweet old lady that was on a walker that came to see her son.
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My husband is in a camp. Camps must do things on a differnt level. I have read in this post they pat you down when you go in for visiting. I have never been patted down. As far as the rude guards. I had one and know exactly what you all mean. I think the guards had a complex problem growing up. They always got picked on or something and this is their way to retaliate. Commenting on the dress code. I was called up by a stinky guard to have him tell me my shorts where not long enough. Hell they were above my knee caps. I did not argue with him. The next day though I got really discouraged when three people walked through and they might as well not been wearing anything. They did not get booted or called to the bench like I did. Crazy how things work.
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oh yes!! Most of them act like they are next to God.. well in our loveones case.. they are .. for they decide whether they get a visit or not... i cant stand them!! Not to mention how them PO are... well that a whole new topic.lol
Mamabear59
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More like "POWER CONTROL", I feel sorry for their wives, or husbands, female CO's can be just as nasty, I know we had one of those in one of the facilities, nasty, just pure nasty, she would write up a ticket in a blink of a eye.

Got her though with a friend who was maxing out, she wanted to ticket him, he told her go ahead, I'm leaving very soon, guess the joke was on her?

What really had me heated is, I'm disabled, they had me sit in a drug chair, they said they do this to every 4 visitors, picture this bull, 14 years of togetherness, we never gave them a reason for nothing, but yet they serve poppy seed rolls in that facility, take a wee-wee after that, could turn up drug positive, go figure? Most are idiots.
Lynn
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I GOTTA SAY IM LUCKY ALL THE GAURDS AT THE PRISON HERE HAVE BEEN REAL NICE TO US ONE TOLD ME MY SHIRT SHOWED TO MUCH AND SAID FOR ME TO PULL IT UP SOME AND I COULD GO IN THERE IS ONE BUT HE NEVER TALKS TO ANY ONE HE JUST STICKS HIS NOSE UP IN THE AIR AND KEEPS GOING SO I GUESS IM LUCKY IN THAT AREA
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I agree with you. Alot of these guards are on a power trip. Luckily most of the guards where my husband is right now are pretty nice. There is only one that gives him any kinda trouble and he believes that is just a racial thing. My husband is white and the other day he put a piece of paper over the vent in his cell because he was cold, he knew it was against the rules. There is a black guy in each cell on either side of him and they had done the same thing. My husband didn't even get a warning to take it down and this one guard (who is black) threw him in lockdown for 72hrs! The two black guys on the either side of him didn't even get reprimanded.
But then there are some nice guards too. One guard even let my husband use her personal cell phone to call me one evening when she found out I wasn't going to get to come visit him. I'm sure it is against some rule somewhere but she risked her job so I could talk to my husband for a few minutes.
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