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Phone calls home

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I have been reading the boards and some of the journals here, and I keep seeing people mentioning phone calls from their loved ones. Mine doesn't call. I know he has a phone card because he told me he bought one with the money I put on his books. He's called his parents, he's called my dad, but no phone calls for me or our children.

Any thoughts on why he would not want to talk to us? And do you think this is something I should mention to him at our visit this coming week (I see him twice weekly)?

Any advice would help.
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It is possible if you get to see him twice a week that he is using his phone money to reach those he doesn't get to see. I wouldn't hesitate to ask him after all you are paying for him to contact you and the kids not the rest of the outside world...those people should be paying for their calls. I wouldn't let PO use me like that.
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I should probably mention that he will not allow the children to see him in jail, so they haven't seen or heard from him in over a week now.

Thank you POsOldlady.
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Sometimes I think it is hard for them to listen to our voice on the oher end and not be able to hold us in their arms and kiss our lips and that it harder then calling mom and dad and say that they our ok.
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Maybe your phone number hasn't been put on the approved caller list. I know where James is they have to submit the number for approval.
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The only person that can answer that ?? is him. SO when you go to see him ask. If you aren't pleased with the answer that he gives then you have to search yourself to see what your next course of action will be...If you want an opinion here it goes. He might figure since he gets to see you so often he'll use the card for those who he can't....as far as the kids go think about it what parent really is ready to let their children see them in that kind of environment. Or maybe he doesn't know what to say to the chioldren yet. He's ashamed I'm sure and he feels like he let them and you down. That's what my husband says to me in his letters and phone calls. I wish I could see him twice a week. I'm on the east coast and he's locked down in the mid west... think about it. It could be worst!
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Thanks everyone...I will talk to him about it on Weds. I know that I'm lucky that I can see him as often as I do right now. Once he's sentenced though, I have no idea where he will end up, hopefully somewhat close by.

I have only been here a couple of days, and I can honestly say that I am impressed by all of you...what an incredible group of women you are.
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