Hang in there girl. you will find your strength. We are all here to support each other. I will be your friend. Not as far away as the east coast. :)
Stay strong!
Linda

LNLY: I remember this feeling all too well and it is quite overwhelming. I empathize with what you are going through. I joined a grief group right after my bf was sentenced. I found the group to be of great help! I also met with a counselor to "sort out" all of the feelings I was having. I found the support group from my local hospital. Then, I began reading as many books as I could get my hands on to educate myself on prison life. One of the best books I read was "The Prisoner's Wife" by Asha....(I cannot recall her last name), but I am sure if you google the book you will be able to find it. It was excellent! I would try writing a letter to the Superintendent of the prison explaining your old felony charge and the fact that visiting your husband is crucial to his recovery and that his staying connected to you is important for his mental health and well being. How long ago was your charge? I know others that have done this and it has worked. I wish you the very best. If you need to talk, I am here!

Bless your heart! All of the previous advice those 2 ladies gave you is exactly what I was gonna say to you...so all I can say now is to holler at me ANYTIME you need someone!!

I totally agree with dmybinder. The book she's refering to is "The Prisoner's Wife,a memoir - by Asha Bandele. This is an excellent book. Hope this helps. God Bless.

I'm also unemployed and amazed at how hard it is to find a job in Vegas. I also have a past not a felony but a gross misdomeoner and was approved for visits. I haven't been able to see James since last December due to he's 7 hours away and I don't have the money to get there. The first year is the hardest cause it's the first year you're apart for everything. I know there are a couple of local support groups. I've never gone cause I don't know if you can take children with you and I can't afford a sitter. I think the support groups are listed in the paper on Wednesdays maybe Thursdays. I also feel like I'm at the lowest life can get but I trudge forward everyday cause my daughter makes it worth it.

One day at a time. sometimes its second by second.

your in my prays. I am a insant
single mom too. And in the start of this I was going not my self you can say.I did not know where to go or what to do first. I lost everything plus knowing I hd to live with out my husband for a year was to much to deal with. But now after 4 months and knowing the way my life is going to be and what steps I have to make.And being there for my 8 year old.
I know I can do it and so can you take one day at a time.That is all any of us can ask for and we our all here for you. thay keep saying that we will be stronger because of this.I hope thay aree right.
God Bless.

Keep busy(it helps the time go by faster). Send him those letters, with nice photos if you can. Of course keep praying and we will be too for you.
Hugs

i agree with everyone, and i met asha - she's a great woman, just like all of us. you can print this application and write to the counselor, warden, etc. asking to be able to visit -and stress how important it is for YOU, your family and your loved one . good luck! this form says Illinois - but i would edit it and find out what court to submit it to in your state/county - where you were locked up.T the basis of it is all the same. It's supposed to help people with criminal records to get employment or remove other barriers - so you can use it for many things. (see question #5 on the form). http://www.state.il.us/prb/docs/certreldisapp.pdf

hope this helps!

I know how you fell I have been there. My husband has been gone for almost 3 years now. It does get a little better as time goes on. For 2.5 of these 3 yrs my husband was in ks I am in az and I didn't get to see him more than twice a year. In fact before he was moved back to az a couple months ago I hadn't seen him since last christmas. I am here anytime you want to talk.

The fact you are raising your child and care about them means that you ARE strong, even if you don't feel it. All I can suggest is remind yourself of the positive, even if there isn't much that feels positive at the moment. And remember that you have survived a year already, and you CAN survive the rest. I often do the day by day thing (bit like AA/ NA) - rather than think about getting through the whole sentence, I just work on today, and when I go to bed remind myself that I've survived one more day, and that can't be taken away or "taken back". And come to this group whenever you can. It DOES help.

I am truly sorry for what you and your child are living. I too am trying to pick up pieces of my life and live again. Think in this thought. You are in a new place with a chance to start fresh. It won't happen at once but try each day to make yours.